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My husband gave me a concussion. Do I stay?

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My husband and I have been married 1 year, but I have know him my whole life and we have been romanticly together for 4 year (including our marriage.)

He is a recovering alcholholic. He hadn't had a drink for a year except for one relapse a few weeks earlier. He is an aggressive drunk, but has never laid a hand on me before.

He has an explosive temper. When we first started dating, it scared me. My father had been abusive and I felt like I was going to get hurt. Eventually I trusted that he would never hurt me. Even now, after this has happened, I still end up thinking it whenever someone asks if I feel safe to go home.

In this incident, he had 5 beers, and he started yelling at me unprovoked. Depending on what he says, I either end up standing my ground and arguing back, or waiting out his fit. This time I aegged back. He said things that hurt.

I wasn't expecting it. When his hands grabbed me I didn't have time to process. He is exmilitary. He took me to the ground with enough force that I didn't know he punched through our glass sliding doors while I lay on the ground. He was still screaming at me. I got up, telling myself to "move" repeatedly.

I got in my car and drove to our close friends house, barely keeping my car on the road.

I have few friends. The ones I do have won't give me their opinions. They keeps saying I have to come to my own decisions, and they won't help me talk through it to sway me either way.

I just want your opinion. Logic or emotion driven. To help me think about it. Please and thank you for your help.