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How to be vulnerable??

I don’t even know where to start. I’m 19 year-old girl who’s never had a boyfriend. I’ve had many, many offers from many very nice guys but I always turn them down. I think my last crush ended when I turned 14.

A majority of my best friends are guys, but I’ve never had any romantic feelings towards any guy (or girl, let’s just clarify that I’m STRAIGHT). Most of the time I don’t care about ever having a guy care for me… then I have very brief moments where I would love to be cared for.

My papa just passed away a couple weeks ago, and at the funeral even though I was trying to hold back the tears I still wouldn’t let any of them even hug me. :-/

I’ve gone through a rough time with my own parents. My parents never loved each other and my dad has been abusive to both my mum and me. They’ve recently separated.

I tend to be a very outgoing person, I’m confident and pretty. I do tend to be a little flirt at times (which I guess is why I attract so many boys). But I don’t want to be this way… How can I loosen up and allow myself to be vulnerable??

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Answer #1

My fiance’s mom and dad pretty much hate eachother, she was really slutty for a long time because of it, it made her believe that love was fake, it was just about the penis.

I changed that.

Answer #2

Honestly, I would think about talking to a pshychiatrist. You were obviously brought in a house that showed no emotion and affection so you were raised to think that it’s normal to be that way. That can be a very hard habit and mindset to break. You should really talk to someone.

Answer #3

you shouldn’t want to be vulnerable… but you should talk to someone… you could just try being closer and more open to a few of your friends… let them hug you… let them know your feelings, even if it’s just a little bit at a time… you will find someone who is ready and willing to be there for you and give you that love and comfort that you need… good luck…

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