Funadvice Logo
Explore Join
More Love & Relationships Questions

How can I break up with my boyfriend and how can I cope with it?

WARNING, this is really long, but in desperate of help

Well, this is a really hard decision for me, as I truely love him with all my heart, but it just got to the point where his being too much, too demanding.

Well were together for a year and 9 months now, and 4 months ago he broke up with me, cause I kept pushing him away, so we were not together for 2 months and he was mean to me, he started seeing this other girl and when he came back to me, he lied to me about everything he did when we broke up.

His a totally different guy from the guy I fell in love with, he now smokes, he lied to me that his still a virgin, that he wasnt seeing this girl but he told his friends that he told me everything and I was fine. Its just his friends who told me about it and I was shocked knowing it from other people than him.

A month later were still together and we kept having arguements cause I keep pushing him away and being distant, so he said; If you push me away again, Im sorry but thats I. I dont want to be with you if it happens again.

And lately thats all I’ve been hearing from him, about what he wants, that he cant do this or that IF I dont do it first. To me this is not LOVE anymore, its just plain selfish pleasures for him. I’ve loved him unconditionally but this is just being in a one way road. He told me if I dont do something, like cry to him, be very loving or for example talk about the future, he wont either. But he knew I have problems with this things but now it seems like its have to be done or else were over.

I dont really know what else to do. I’ve told him some stuff thats been bothering me weeks before this, and he said everytime he comes home its just problems, and he makes it seem like im just problems; he wanted me to be vulnerable, needy, clingy. Now im like that, its not making things easier, we have no time together, his always with friends, I feel like as my friend said 2nd best.

Is breaking up with him a good idea cause it seems like talking to him will only just lead into him saying I had it I dont want to be with you, cause im a problem. Help…

Become an Expert →
Answer #1

Ok, I took all of your advice, but I still love him and I really do, and we know we cant be together again anymore as we both dont want to be those couples who keeps breaking up and getting back together. But we both stil love each other, and I cant stop wondering if us will ever happen again…

How can I cope up with our break up, I dont want to forget him but we want to be friends and maybe someday, hopefully we’ll find each other. But I got nothing to get me going now, I do feel better withouth worrying if his flirting with a girl cause girls go crazy for him and he doesnt know that what he does is taken as flirting to girls and all that shizz. But help me and give me something to look forward to each day, please… cause he told me he loves me today… but we just want to be alone, not together but I look for him everywhere I go..

Help me :(

Answer #2

Okay, this happened to one of my friends recently, so I know exactly what you’re going through. This is going to be a very hard decision, but you’re gonna have to dump him. You’re just gonna have to stand up for yourself and let him know it’s not okay to treat you like that and you deserve better. It will be hard at first without him, but after a while you’ll soon realize that you’re doing something good for yourself, I’m not saying you won’t love him anymore, but feelings change and you won’t love him the same way, it will only be a nostalgic love, like a memorial. So if he tries to be mean if you go through with this, don’t hate him for it, hold your head up high knowing you’ll be much happier this way, and if he can’t respect that and want you to be happy, that’s his problem, and shouldn’t be yours anymore.

Answer #3

okay, I dont like to post a long long advice for a stupid guy with no respect and threaten to break up everytime he feels like crap. Two words = Screw him.

Obviously, the kid doesnt have a brain and I say this for probably every smart boyfriends, girls, and parents that your boyfriend can go fcuk himself for screwing around with a maiden(girl).

Answer #4

To Mae93, Your boyfriend sounds like a complete idiot. No offence. I’m 14, and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Yeah we fall out, but we love eachother more than anything. To me it sounds like he has no respect for you. I understand he wants to spend time with his friends, but he’s making you feel like all this is your fault, and I promise you it isn’t. I think you should tell him that he doesn’t treat your right, and that he’s selfish and inconsiderate. Don’t bother letting him down gently, he’s not worth it. I understand, you’ve been together almost 2 years, and it will be different not being with him. Or, if you love him too much for that, tell him it’s you or all this. Give him a motive. He has to treat you better, act like he loves you. I think you’d be better off without him. Do what you think is best for you. Not him.

Remember, Live It To The Max. Nothing Less. FunMail me if you need more help. xxx

Answer #5

Yea just dump him, he aint worth your time! say later player!

Answer #6

Yea just dump him, he aint worth your time!

More Like This
Advisor

Love & Relationships

Dating, Marriage, Breakups