Why is self harming bad?

Dear red_rose_mafia, First of all self harm is not stopping you from suicide?? Not sure how this fallacy got started but it is far from the truth. The feelings around self abuse are much different than around suicide. Therefore are treated differently. People who self harm sometimes do so much damage they do end up dying from their wounds. Self harm is typically used as a release. This is a form of coping for those who do not have proper coping skills. Many kids try it because they hear other are doing it much like anorexia. But they are psychological disorders and you just don’t decide one day to try it…people with these disorders need therapy and need to be taught coping skills. Self harm usually starts because of a problem but continues after the problem is solved; it becomes a habit. So again this is much different then having suicidal feelings. Any one who self harms needs therapy. Sue…good luck

very interesting question! it is bad only if you think somewhere deep inside that you are doing something wrong. and since you are asking… there must be some guilt wrapped around the pain you are causing yourself. it may even have something to do with you seeing this as a natural behaviour with someone around you when you were young. So now you are doing this to yourself naturally. But on the other hand you are now questioning it too. And I guess by saying “when it stops me from killing myself” is simply a justification and a continuation of self inflicted pain. So you see it really is a mind game. On one side you are questioning this so as to find an alternative and on the other you are keeping yourself stuck, by logically coming to a sound reason as to why you should continue harming yourself. This my dear is a catch 22, Like everything else in this world. Crazy huh. I just figured this out a week ago. Ask me more if you wish :)

You do not like yourself and self harming satisfies your need to take out your aggression on yourself. I guess I want to know why you dislike yourself so much that you want to hurt yourself?

Yes.. that is a really interesting question. I suppose people say it’s bad because it’s not worth it, your damaging your body, your problems will become worse etc. However what you’re saying ‘why is self harming bad when it stops me from killing myself?’ doesn’t really make sense..It may become worse if you carry on doing it.. and could eventually lead to suicide. It doesn’t necesarily mean that self-harm is an alternative to suicide.

But heey, I’ve been through the whole self-harm crisis =/ If you need to talk more then funmail me.

Good luck =]

xxx

Because it harms yourself

Because at your age you are suppose to be enjoying yourself, your future and your friends, not being self destructive.

don’t kill your self

who said it was bad? lol

dont self-harm yourself to try to solve a problem or help you get through it, how ya gunna go through life if you cant even handle yourself at 14

grow some balls and face your problems

lol and self-harm yourself for fun not for problem solving lol joke