How can I deal with the anger and hatred I have for someone?

Well the thing is…. Things have been very up and down for me… and My bf got me a promise ring for our 2 year anniversary and gave it to me at 1am this morning… and then when I woke up from sleeping my dad called, and all my family lives 800 miles away in another state… And he told me that this girl who I grew up with and considered my cousin was murdered last night… and I am so angry I wish I knew who it was who did it and It makes me insane thinking about it… and I am at work right now working 12 hour night shifts, so I have a long time to think on it… and I dont want to make myself crazy… I cried for about a half hour straight, and now I feel numb. Like everyone just doesnt exist because I just keep spacing out and thinking about finding who ever did this to her…. I hate this…

Answer #1

Depends do you have to see them o. A daily basses if you try to get your schedule change. Or is it someone at home

Answer #2

The best thing for you to do, in my opinion, is see a counselor or therapist.

You can talk to them about why you feel this anger and hatred for this person, and they can help you deal with it the correct way.

Answer #3

chocolate babe :\ its teh only solution im telling you, it work everytime ;)

Answer #4

That sounds awful. Part of grief is anger and fortunately this will pass with time. Try and focus on the positive side; think of all the good times you had with the girl and what a lovely person she was. Justice will be done and the murderer will get his karma.

Answer #5

Chocolate+cuddles=smiles?

Answer #6

Yeah it really is an odd situation, I keep having ups and downs. One minute I am bubbly the next I feel like crying. Its kinda rediculous. I realize I am still in the grieving process which is normal, but its so mentally twisting.

Answer #7

Thank you all for your helpful answsers. You all get pts. Thank you.<3

Answer #8

I remember when my dad died 2 years ago and i still think about him everyday and a few days ago i was walking through morrisons and i burst in to tears and i really dont know why,, it was the doctors fault for the death of my father and i hated all doctors although my dad was a doctors for many years.. my mum booked us in for counselling but that didnt help at all so time is the real healer i feel i can talk about him now and i know i will never forget him,, give it time :)

Answer #9

Everything happens for a reason and justice will take its course. im very sorry.

Answer #10

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I am sorry about your loss, ,but I assure you he is with you darling. <3

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