Why am I the bad guy for waking everyone up to go to church?

‘but the husband and the 4 yr old are both the I hate the world, make it stop for me kind of people’

Alright, how about trying to understand things from another perspective? You’re a morning person. Good for you. A lot of people are not. Believe me, late sleepers dont hate the world or sleep their lives away, they just hate mornings. And they’re probably up and about when your energy is drained and want to go to bed. Just because your body works where you’re all chipper in the morning does not mean that you have it right. Yes the world has been set to work for people who get up early. Probably stems from farming days. For some reason we evolved past farming but not the ridiculous farming schedules. Stop playing the innocent victim here. Yeah, they dont like mornings. No matter what you do, that’s not going to change. Someone could sing to me, prepare me a wonderful breakfast, be the sweetest person on earth. But wake me up before 10am on a sunday, and you will not get a good reception. Really. It does not matter what you do. I wouldnt suggest a change in behavior, but rather a change in attitude. If there’s no later mass, then go for the early one. But dont expect a change in behavior on their part. They’re not doing this to upset you.

Look at it this way- have your husband and child both agreed that they would go to church in the morning? If so, then you are definitely not the bad guy in this situation. However, if you are the one insisting that you go to early morning church, you should not be surprised that they are both grumpy about having to get up early. Like cupkate460 said, go to a later mass.

And they are not sleeping their lives away. What time exactly do you wake them up? 7:00? Around that time? Well, the four year old and your husband obviously want to take advantage of the fact that they can wake up later on a weekend. Remember, just because you are an early morning person does not mean that your family will be the same.

There really is no proper way to wake them up because no matter what you do to compensate, you have disturbed their sleep. Don’t try too hard and be confident of yourself.

Well I know I hate it when people be waking me up in the morning… I kinda like to do it my own way. The four year old.. well he is 4 every kid hates bein wooken up early, and your husband.. well let him wake up, he is an adult, meaby an alarm clock?

Ah, so this is an everyday thing. Your husband is an adult. Set the alarm, tell him you’re going to get up by himself as all adults should be able to do, and let him be late for work if he wants to be. The bigger problem is the school. I wouldnt automatically assume that because your husband is always late that your kid will learn that. My dad was always late. What I learned from that is I dont like people being late and having to wait for hours for someone to pick me up after school (yes, I’d be seated with the security guard some days), what I learned from that was never to be late. So you never really know what you’re teaching your kid. You do your best. But you cant allow his lateness to affect your kids schooling. So you might want to point that out.

Thanks everybody for the different perspectives! But I really truly am thinking about turning over the waking duties to my husband. My only fear is I know they would be late for work and school but I’m trying to convince myself that’s not a big deal and just roll with it. See if they maybe take it out on each other instead of both ganging up on me! What do ya’ll think? Set my own alarm and if they are late, so be it? But then I worry about teaching the 4 yr old bad habits and don’t want her to think its ok to be late all the time??? Help!

dont wake them up so early for church, I mean seriously who wants to wake up early in the morning for CHURCH? go to a later mass if they have one or something, let them sleeepp your husband probably works hard during the week and wants some rest and the child is FOUR so hes gonna want to sleep and he will be cranky no matter what, some people are not a morning person, just face it.