What to do if your mom is a Jehovah's Witness and won't let you go out with friends?

I always want to do stuff. Like for example go to the movies or go to birthday partied. But my mom never lets me! I’ve been wanting to go to this huge birthyday party my friends having and everyone is going. I want to go so bad ! But my mom set me up with this stupid “ play date “ With the freakish girls from our church. I wanted to go to the movies tommarow but of course we havve bible study. I wanted to go to my friends house on sunday but of course we have church. And monday i cant do anything bc we have church. It always gets in the way and im SICK OF IT. I tried everything. From convincing her it was all fake, to telling her how much i hate this stupid life, and so on. I want to go SO bad this saturday. I need to go. I even got her a present and everything! Ugh i hatte my mom so much!

Answer #1

Ride it out until youre 18. It could be worse, I know church is crap but parties really aren’t as great as they’re made out to be. Have you tried just sitting down and having a conversation with with her about what you want?

Answer #2

Well, first of all, I’m very sorry. That is not a fun situation to be in. It seems that your mom is a bit too over protective. You should try talking to her again and let her know that you’re responsible and that your motives are not to drink, smoke, or have se.x or do anything else she wouldn’t approve of at this party (or in general, even). You just want to have fun. Just tell her that you work hard all week with school, homework, and church.. and that on the weekends you would at least like to hang out with some friends at the mall or park or whatever and show her that you are really upset about it. Tell her that because of all the strict rules, you sometimes think about sneaking out or going against what she says because it’s so strict and restrained, but you won’t because you know it’s not right. However, if you were given some more freedom you would be happier and more content with your social life. Tell your mom that you respect her and that you know she’s just looking out for you and that you appreciate it. Show her the present you got your friend and tell her how much it would mean to you if you could go to that party and celebrate your friends birthday. Tell your mom you can always call her a few hours into the party to let her know you’re doing okay, or suggest another compromise. If you don’t think talking will be effective, write all of this in a note instead and give it to her.

Answer #3

I agree with Conor, just hang in there, suck it up and in three years time, you can legally do whatever you want without your mum’s approval. Some parents do let their religious upbringing govern their life and lifestyle which is a pity for their own children and hence the rebellion from their own off-springs against them. Best to let this ride out, as long as her religion is not putting you in danger or harm (for example, not letting you have a blood transfusion when you are sick because as a Jehovah Witness you are not allow to do that) then grin and bear it. Three years will go really quickly and once you turn 18 and find a full-time job, your social life will be even better then what it is now. The plus side, you do not have to listen to your mother if you don’t want too.

Answer #4

Because I love quoting the human rights list so much;

The Universal Declaration of Human Rights Article 13 states that “Everyone has the right to freedom of movement within their own country” and Article 18 “Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion”. You should be able to go where you want and have the beliefs you want. If she can’t understand this then she is denying your rights. If she still insists, you may have to wait until you’re 18 in which you are an adult in the eyes of the law and able to do as you wish fully.

Answer #5

youtube.com/watch?v=o2xB9CiIQMM

Here. Listen to what they do in their secret judical committees. This is brand new.

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