opinons on spankings

well, im 14 and I still get whippings (but that wont be happening again…im putting my foot down). but I used to get them with a belt… IT WAS TORTURE!!! I couldnt take it and it would just keep going on and on (I WOULD BE BEGGING FOR HER TO STOP BUT SHE WOULDNT). And my momma would keep hitting you in the exact same spot, so that it would turn raw and you would get the full effect of the torture. NOT TO MENTION, I HAD TO TAKE OFF MY PANTS BEFORE I GOT A WHIPPING!! When it was finally done, I would have whips, bruises, and cuts where the belt had hit so hard, the skin ripped open from the impact. They would be all over my thighs, butt, shins, arms, and hands where I had tried to relieve some of the pain for just a couple of seconds. Thinking back on it, I cant believe I let her do that stuff to me. one time, when my little brother was getting a whipping, my grandma had to come stop her. My grandma told her that she needed to go find some help because she must have had a mental problem.

THESE WHIPPINGS DONT WORK!!! they only make me HATE HER and make me run away. I WOULD NEVER WHIP MY CHILDREN!!!

I remember I used to get them to. it never worked, it made me want to do worse stuff until he had no choice but to let it go. well, it got so bad he almost called the cops on me and from that point on I’ve realized my mistakes in life and I’ve learned from them. I’ve seen the brighter side of things and now I’m a really good person. I was in 6th grade and it took a threat about the cops to straighten me out. I don’t think the spakings worked at all. it didn’t teach me, it won’t teach many people now a days. I think there are much better ways to discipline your children.

at 1 year old thats too young for a spanking I would say that when a child gets to 3 or 4 then I would take down their pants and smack their bare bottoms and give back of their legs a good smack

See this is a complicated one. Just because people have been doing things for years, doesnt make it good… People did all sorts of stupid things for centuries before realizing they were stupid… But I dont know about the whole spanking thing… My father never raised a hand to me, I still listened to him more than my mother (who would occasionally slap me). So honestly, I dont think respect and obedience has anything to do with whether you cause fear and intimidation in a child… I was never scared of my father, I still listened to him…

Same wih me. I wouldn’t spank my children either. But it is a form of discaplin. Some parents do it to make their child learn a lesson. As long is it doesn’t like bruise the child, or take the spanking to the extreme, I think it’s not bad-but not good.

I don’t believe in spanking as a first resort when kids do something wrong.

However, I do believe it is a punishment that should be used in certain situations. My husband and I use it when our children do something that is dangerous or unsafe. We also use it in some situations where our children do things that they have clearly been told before will not be tolerated in our home. That includes: stealing; cheating; or harming others.

We don’t spank with anything but our hand. However, if the behavior is serious enough we spank our children with their pants taken down on the seat of their underwear. Its been effective for us and it sends a clear message that certain behavior won’t be tolerated. It can be a teaching tool for your other kids as well.

I think spankings, if they’re not used too much, give the child a crystal-clear consequence of whatever they did wrong. And I think it oughta be done formally: over the knee on the bare bottom. Shame and pain are what disciplinary spankings are all about. Instead of spanking me, my mother withdrew her affection. There was never any clear sense of punishment like a well-spanked bottom, and I was never properly taught about Actions and Consequences.

well I’m 18 now… my last spank was when I was 16. I got it bare bottom and only hit by hands… well I used to get it when ever I did something wrong.. my mum used to spank me and when my dad gets home I get spanked by him as he hits much harder… I think I learned from it but I dont think I will do it to my kids

well I am 13 and I havnt got spanked in like years I got spanked from when I was about 3 to 7or 8 and I am glad my parents spanked me yeah it hurt but it was disapline and I think if she didnt I would have thought I coudl throw a tantrume and not get punished and things like that so I guess when I am older I will spank my kids not becouse I whant to but becouse it is for there own good and I what my kids to grow up and be good kids and unly spank them when thy do somthing really bad so yeha I guess I do beilve that parents spank ther kids for there own good.

I actually myself wouldnt DARE lay a hand on my children… but, unless they did something extremly wrong which to me- is sex related hahahah but, I mean it really becomes unfair to that person during the times of them being spanked.. you would ofcourse complain sayin you have unfair, strict parents.. and I really woulndt want that to happen to me or to my kids. but I thin kfor the ones who think they can do watever they want, be mean all the time adn juss dont know how to act- then they kind of need it. because it hurts os much it will actually teach them a lesson! haa but gettin your butt whipped with a belt hurts even more..! lmao

well see. I was spanked when I did something REALLY bad, like trying to choke my sister when I was 5. so I understand why. and honestly I think it worked being I didnt turn out to be a horrable kid. I love life, and I hang around good, honest people. I dont do anything other teenagers are doing. so I dont know!

Well…parents have been spanking their children on the behind for eons…LONG before it was ever considered bad parenting…The teachers themselves did a lot of the paddling.

I got spanked, for gross infringement of rules…and it did persuade me to try to NOT infringe again…

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it depends really im 16 and my bro is 18 my dad is not afraid to spank us if we do somethin he don’t agree wit. me its because its more of a culture thing id say bcause where im from, HAITI, parents slap, beat, spank their as punish as they see fits.

I do agree wit u, me personally I wont raise my hand, or a belt or any object, at my kids