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Married but feeling desire for someone else - emotional affair

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Here's a little background info: I am 28 my husband is 30. We have been together since we were 14 and 16. We were each others first loves and first sexual experiences. I have been faithful to him since the very first day we met, and I assume he has, he has given me no reason to think otherwise. We have a good marriage. We get along with each other and still enjoy each others company, but there is no "spark", no excitement, or energy. Our sex life is blah to me. I've never experienced anyone else sexually so I don't have anyone to compare him too, but I think sex is supposed to be better than this. For years I've gotten used to just having 5-minute sex with him. It's terrible. Just recently he's gotten better sexually (lasting longer) but now he just goes "soft" in the middle of intercourse. I'm so very frustrated. I have a VERY high sex drive - could do it 5 days a week very easily. He on the other hand could do it maybe 3 or 4 times a month!!! I just cannot view him as a "man" with the sexual issues he has. I am approached by men (and women too although not sexually) EVERYDAY, several times a day and told how beautiful I am (I look like Alicia Keys twin sister - mixed white and puerto rican). There is a guy I want, I am attracted to him, but nothing has happened except for flirting. He wants me BAD but respects the fact that I'm married. I can't get him out of my mind. What should I do. I don't want to end my marriage, but I don't want to stay in it. I'm thinking of going through a separation with my husband to sort some things out. PLEASE HELP!