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How to be more assertive.

I don’t want to be judged for anything I say. I’m the kind of person who doesn’t stick up for myself. I’d like to, but I don’t like making people feel akward or anything. I’ve been sexually assulted atleast 5 times, and I don’t tell them to stop, I just back off as much as I can. My best friend always says I need to start sticking up for myself, she says im the type of person who will get raped if I dont stop doing what im doing. Do you guys get this way too? I dont know why I put myself through this.. What can I do?

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Answer #1

For one, you need to have more confidence. In dealing with the sexual harassment, it doesn’t matter if someone feels awkward or bad about it. You have to stick up for yourself or they won’t stop. Again, CONFIDENCE is what you need.

Answer #2

I used to be in your shoes 2 years ago,I think the way I stopped it was basically going off on any person who dared hitting me physically,that went on for a year and stopped 9 months ago. People still look at me as an easy target cause I don’t have much muscle but I sure is heck know how to fight people off if they bug me.

If people start to pick with you and you don’t like it and they keep on,swing a fist until they back off,I was taught that when I was 11,the punches may hurt a few times or more,but you’ll get used to it. As for the raping thing,have something near you every time you see it’s about to happen,get up,swing and yell at the top of your lungs and don’t stop screaming until that person leaves,that’s mainly out of self defense.

Answer #3

If someone touched me and I didn’t like it, I’d say something. It’s not really sexual assult unless they know you don’t want it. You need to just say “Hey, I don’t like this, please stop.” if they keep it up, don’t be nice about it. “DON’T FREAKING TOUCH ME YOU SICK PREVERTED FRUIT!!! DO IT AGAIN AND I’LL RIP YOUR LITTLE FRIEND OFF AND SHOVE IT UP YOUR BEHIND!!!” Feel free to replace some words with cuss words. :]

Answer #4

kick em in the nuts and rollout

Answer #5

hahahahhaha crazylexy, oh my! “Kick em’ in the nuts and roll out.” That’s advice to live by, right there.

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