how to let my hubby know what I want

Hmm, well there’s lots of questions I have for you since I don’t have the whole picture, but in general, my number one rule is always communication!

Talk to him about it, either in bed when you’re cuddling, or while you’re just sitting watching TV or whenever. Some people find it easier the more casual you make it. If that makes you feel uncomfortable though, and you’d rather only bring it up while actually having sex or while being intimate, then do that.

Most men like to hear dirty talk of some sort. Some are the assertive type and don’t like to be told what to do, and if your husband is like this, then you have to be clever. Say things like, “I love feeling you inside me,” or “I want you to taste me all over baby!” Make suggestions like this that aren’t direct commands and you might be surprised where it leads.

Some men find an assertive or aggressive woman in bed very hot, and they might not even know that until you try it. I wonder if you’ve tried 69-ing? That might be a great way to get what you want while giving him what he wants.

Another question: Do you dislike giving head? If so, and your able, maybe try letting him f* your boobs… you might enjoy it more, and he might think it’s really hot. There’s all sorts of things you can try. Just keep trying until something works. Or better yet, try something different every time. Keep him guessing.

Another thing you could try if you really feel awkward talking to him about it is to go buy a naughty game at an adult novelty store like Spencers or at any adult toy store. A lot of people find these games that give suggestions for positions, activities, etc, very fun because neither one of you has to decide or tell the other what they want. Just be sure to be loud and clear when you liked something the game suggested. :)

Hope this helps, and I’d be happy to discuss more!