How do I deal with my 14 yr old son

things like those are suppose to be taught when they are little so they know that’s what their suppose to do when grown up..well im not saying you didnt do it..but its just a reminder..it sounds to me that he’s wanting/is rebeling..you should make it real clear to him that he has to do as he is told..yes I know he isnt a little kid anymores..but if you keep on letting him go on like that he will suffer and so will you. offer him things..like lets say..he can go out with his friends only if he cleans his room or he can talk on his phone if he cleans up after himself when he eats.. just be careful with what you do when it comes to that because if you do it too much and get carried away with it..it’ll come back and get you later on when you want him to do something and you got nothing that he wants from u..get what I mean? if he doesnt respect u, try aproaching him when he is calm and not talkin to anyone talk to him about how you feel and how exactly how he would like for you to respect him that you would want him to respect you as well.. remember set your foot on the ground..yes means yes and no means no like the bible says..let him know that as long as he lives under your roof he has to live under your rules which is a 100% true. I know im not a parent but I had a twisted childhood and still living a twisted life.. and im just sayin what I can help in with a parent dealing with a kid like this.

hope it helps some.

Explain to him that in reality, it is your family against the world. That is the job of each member in the family to help the family succeed. That as a member of the family there are responsibilities that he has to help the family function. Part of those responsibilities are some chores and maintaining the neatness and organization of his room.

Also, part of the responsibility of each member of the family is to respect the other members of the family. It is normal to have disagreements with each other but they should be handled in a civilized and respectful manner.

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please pz read this all especially the end which is so important! ok ok ok listen to me. I have t admitt I a a 11 year old girl but I know this kinda situation. trust e it works. 1.money 2.pretend your sick and make him feel sorry for you and he will clean 3.don’t even tell him to clean it for a month and then he’ll think it got s bad he’ll get disgusted and clean it up(please trust me it works my mom has done all of these t me they worked) by the way I want to help you you but here is my point of veiw of his situation…”it is a wast of time I never go in there and if I do all I do in there is trash it eve more kids never get good grades in school because parents are so busy nagging them to do this clean that and pick up all those. its even wasting the parents time!!!come on let us paint out own walls the way we want to like write out name in green and draw a heart in blue and a star in black and the back round yellow. anne frank got to do that and she was so smart. it grows out shyness away and makes us happy and our open our books!(books is us we are the books)please please please let your son do that and let him have the expeirence that I dont get.let him have fun and grow a happy handsome boy.!:’)

Be stronger willed than he is. Stand there until he gets it done. When he gets it done thank him and ask if he then wants to go out for pizza. Unfortunately when he hasn’t been trained to listen to you then he won’t listen. You had to start early with him. Good Luck

GOING THROUGH PUBERTY AND DOESNT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HIMSELF. HES JUST BEING A BOY, SO TO SPEAK. HES TRYING TO FIND OUT WHO HE IS. THIS IS THE AGE WHERE SCHOOLS ASK THE MOST OUT OF THE STUDENTS, WHILE HES TRYING TO FIT IN AND BE HIMSELF. HES STRESSING OUT OVER EVERYTHING AND WHEN HE COMES HOME, HE JUST WANTS TO RELAX AND DO THINGS ON HIS OWN TIME.

SO HERES AN IDEA IF YOU WANT TO TRY IT:

WHEN HE COMES HOME, LET HIM RELAX. IF YOUR PICKING HIM UP FROM SCHOOL, DONT THROW ORDERS AT HIM, ITS JUST GONNA STRESS HIM OUT MORE.

OK SO YOURE HOME AND DOING YOUR OWN THING. LETTING HIM RELAX AND ALL THAT. MAYBE OVER DINNER, BRING UP THIS IDEA FOR HIM: MAKE A CERTAIN DAY THAT YOU WANT HIS ROOM CLEANED UP, SPOTLESS. BECAUSE DURING THE WEEK WITH CLASSES, US KIDS ARE ALWAYS STRESSING AND TRYING TO GET HOMEWORK DONE.

OK NOW FOR THE LITTLE CHORES LIKE TAKING OUT THE TRASH, ASK HIM ONCE. NOW, WHILE WE KIDS ARE DOIN OUR OWN THING, WE FORGET. ASK HIM AGAIN TELL HIM YOU REALLY NEED IT OUT OF THE HOUSE because IT SMELLS. MOST LIKELY HE’L DO IT THEN.

SO THE BASIC THING IM trying TO TELL YOU IS JUST LET HIM DO IT ON HIS OWN TIME, HE REALLY IS STRESSING OUT!!

YES HE SHOULD RESPECT YOU AND YOU SHOULD RESPECT HIM AT THE SAME TIME. BUT DONT GO AROUND DEMANDING EVERYTHING, JUST SPACE IT OUT AND LET HIM RELAX.

HOPE THIS HELPS A LITTLE