14 year old son

You can’t force a child to live with you. Then again, if you have reigning custody, then you have a right to bring him home. Ask him what he wants, and do the best you can to make him happy. <3

-Psyrenity.

Court ordered child support has little to do where the child lives. If the court said that his father should pay you dollars to support his son then he has to pay that amount. That is a court order. You must maintain a room and home for that child and his father has a responsibility to support that home for him.

Call your son up frequently - email him, etc. Get his opinion on things. You have to see everything from the boy’s perspective. Too many parents get selfish in these sorts of situations. It should be what your son wants, not what the parents feel is best. If he decides he doesn’t like living there, then he’ll ask to come home. If he doesn’t ask to come home, show signals etc, then he wants to stay. Simple as (:

I think you should ask your son what he really wants and go from there..

If your son’s father is a decent father and a good role model, I suggest you allow your son to stay with him. If you don’t, he will only resent you and want to be with his father even more. If, on the other hand, you feel your son’s father is NOT a decent father or a good role model, then by all means, fight for your rights as a mother, and do what is in your son’s best interest. I have experienced pure hell because of my son’s adoptive father. He is a manipulative, lying, coniving man and has been a horrible influence on my son. I warn any woman reading this, DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, ALLOW YOUR HUSBAND TO ADOPT YOUR CHILD FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE. I DON”T CARE HOW WONDERFUL YOU BELIEVE YOUR HUSBAND IS. I DATED MY HUSBAND FOR TWO YEARS BEFORE I MARRIED HIM, AND I STILL HAD NO IDEA WHAT A NIGHTMARE HE WOULD BE !!! HE HAS PRACTICALLY DESTROYED MY SON !!! God have mercy on all single mothers who deeply love their children and desire only the best for them. Some men can be so wicked and deceitful. N.M.