How would you feel if your partner of three years still hasn't introduced you to his family?

We’ve been together almost three years, I have met his mother and his step dad and their families even, but he has never brought me to meet his other family. I understand that he sees them less, but they don’t live so far as to not being able to get there ourselves. I remember once, he had to get a DVD from his stepmom’s and he told me to wait outside rather than having me go in to say “hello”. How would you, personally, feel or think? I have brought this up before but he tells me I am silly and over-thinking it and tells me that he doesn’t see them as much. I have begun wondering if it’s me, if he were ashamed of me, or if it might be my ethnicity and many other things.

Answer #1

He probably isnt ashamed of you but he might be ashamed of his family and doesnt want you to meet that part because they are crazy or something. No offense but you are most likely over thinking things. He has let you meet one part of his family so obviously he isnt ashamed of you. If it really bugs you maybe you can ask him if you can meet that side of his family and if he says no then question him on why not

Answer #2

Maybe he’s ashamed of his family, not you. That’s what I would think. Like I know my family embarasses the hell out of me and i wouldnt want my boyfriend to meet them. If it means that much to you then sit him down and tell him exactly what you just said, about how you feel like he’s embarrassed of you and such.

Answer #3

I think thats a little shady & odd. You should have met their famliy ALONG time ago.

Answer #4

he might not be ready, but you shouldn’t preassure him :)

Answer #5

It’s almost three years :/

Answer #6

Thanks! :) that actually made me feel a bit better.

Answer #7

Thank you :P I feel a little less paranoid about it.

Answer #8

i know… why don’t u ask him why you haven’t met them. or just ask someone elerly…they’re supposed to know everything :)

Answer #9

its possible he thinks you have a nicer house, or a nicer family etc. as everyone else said maybe he’s ashamed. i know it took me almost 2 years for me to let my bf meet my family, because i was embarrassed cuz his house was much nicer and bigger and he only lived with his dad. also i had at the time 2 brothers still living at home and my dad is quite obnoxious. but i think as i did he will get over it and just be open to it =)

Answer #10

I’ve been with a guy for just over three years now, and i’ve never met his parents :l x

Answer #11

I haven’t taken taken my gf of 2 yrs to meet my family too. Never taken any gfs. Its just cause i’m asian and all my family members all over the world will find out and think its a serious relationship (fiancee like). so I just think u shouldn’t pressure him.

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