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How can I deal with my parents splitting up this late in life?

My parents are both in there 50’s. I am 20. I live 800 miles away in another state. My dad just informed me that when I visit this will be the last time I see them together because they decided after my brothers graduation (my reason for the visit) that they are going there seperate ways. A part of me feels its my fault because I left to start my life and I wasnt there for them. I woke up crying. As of late I have been having a semi-grudge against men, I heard a love song by a man and I called him a liar and shut the radio off because he said something about meaning forever… I am very angry, I have become an angry person over the situation and I still have 23 days until I see them, I dont want to be angry for 23 days, and then pretend to be happy when I see them knowing its the LAST time I see them together, Just to be unhappy again when I know I am not there when they are going through all of this. I have a full time job and a house, so I can’t just up and leave…. Please help :(

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Answer #1

Deep down you know that this is not your fault. This is a difficult time and you are looking to put the blame on someone. People go their seperate ways sometimes. There is nothing you can do to prevent that. Wether you were at home or not, this was between the two of them and not you. Whatever it is they had together faded away. This is probably for the best. Now atleast they are free to search for wahtever will make them happy again. God willing maybe someday they will find their way back to each other. But right now just know that they love you and you love them

Answer #2

Thank you for your honest answer. I know its not my fault, but sometimes I feel if I would have stayed I could have kept them happy. I did relationship advice for years…. and I always helped them. And I feel like I failed. It makes me sorta teary eyed just seeing the truth written down. Its hard because for the past 2 years (I did visit for 5 months durring these past 2 years) my father has had many heart problems, so I have done so much worry and finally when things were looking up and his last surgery last month was a success, and suddenly the rug is being pulled from under my feet again…..

Answer #3

I dont know how you can accept it, for me it’s a way of life because my parents have been divorced since I was a baby an it’s still kinda tough. Since you don’t live with them I think it will be easier to adapt and just accept it, but everything takes time

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