How to convince my strict dad to let me go on vacation with bf?

Thanks that’s is what everyone says but it is a little harder than that because of his beliefs I guess u can say… Im just so frustrated I don’t want to get kicked out or have him stop talking to me

He needs to understand that you’re grown and he can’t control you forever. Have you tried to talk to him, alone, and tell him how you feel?

Yes I have but he won’t understand like I said he is very hard headed and when he gets too angry he tells me he doesnt want to talk about anymore that he will talk to me later when he is more calm but idk if he will or not

Yes I have but he won’t understand like I said he is very hard headed and when he gets too angry he tells me he doesnt want to talk about anymore that he will talk to me later when he is more calm but idk if he will or not

In my think parents are always right. Please think positive in your parents site. he know very well about wrong and right. I know you’r 23 it,s not mean you are meture.

In every daughter’s life Father’s are very important role models for their daughters, especially in the puberty and teen years. A father is the first male that a girl comes to intimately know, and he can set the stage for how his daughter interacts in future relationships, especially with men.Father’s have this unique ability to inspire their daughter’s, and daughter’s give their father power like no other male in their life.

Sometimes you may not agree or understand her point of view and she may do things you think are uninteresting and boring, and sometimes she may not agree with you and think the things you do are boring. That’s okay-you can disagree on many things and still have a good relationship.

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If you go you will be changing your family dynamic from now on. You need to decide if you are willing to do that and if it is worth it. Most fathers have a special kind of love for their daughters and want nothing more than to protect them, from everything and that includes keeping them virgin till they wed.

Fathers are good at denial, they will pretend your still virgin as long as your not public with it, but once you make it public, like going on vacation or moving in with, he can no longer deny it to himself or others. Like it or not he will look at you as a whore or slut, and he will blame himself for failing you because he could not protect your virginity.

You have the right to go, you are old enough you don’t have to answer to him, but remember you will be breaking his heart and drastically lowering his opinion of you. You have to decide if it is worth it.

Write your Dad a letter. That will give him your thoughts in a non-confrontational way and allow him to absorb what you want to say without having to argue right away. First figure out exactly why you want to go (i.e. take a break or reward yourself for doing good in school or to spend quality time with your boyfriend or whatever). Figure out how best to present that to your Dad. Tell him that you love him dearly and that he will always be the most important man in your life.
[Note that you are NOT to try and snow your Dad. Be truthful about your feelings, but not in a hurtful way.] He has raised you and given you the same values that he has, and you will always cherish those and keep them in mind in all your decisions. You might not always do exactly what he would do because the two of you are different people, but you will always keep his values in consideration. . Being a Dad of a young lady myself, I can guarantee that his biggest fear is that you will be hurt, and you might be. That is part of life. But he will always be there for you. . As an aside to you, Caroline, I am going to assume that you are having sex with your boyfriend. Please make SURE that if and when you do, you are using birth control of some type. Preferably hormonal B.C. pills as they are 99.7% plus effective if taken correctly. Or condoms (97-98%) and if a condom fail get the morning after pill as soon as possible - available (to 17+y.o.) without a prescription anywhere in the US. . Anyway, that is what I think. Good Luck!!

It’s always a big conflict when you have parents who are more strict with their children especially from an ethnic background. Is there someone in the family that your dad respects - an uncle or aunt you could talk to about this, who could take your father aside and let him see that you’re old enough to take responsibility?

You are 23, enough said. Obviously your father has issue with letting you go, IE paying for school, making it easy for you to live at home, within his rules. It’s his way of keeping you close, he feels like he is protecting you, when in fact it is probably causing more issue. I wonder why you feel the need to convince him of anything. You sound fairly upstanding and responsible. The question should be, “How do I make my dad realize I am not 12 years old?” I understand it is hard for him to let go, but it will be better for all once he accepts the fact that you are an adult. Also, I find it interesting that you wanting to go on vacation with your boyfriend of 3 years, causes him to respond with asking if you are having sex. Does the answer to that affect his decision to allow you to go on vacation? You are not, ok, cool, go have fun…. You are! You are grounded forever! No sense! BTW you are 23 and been in a relationship for 3 years, he knows the answer to his question. I don’t know why he would want to hear the words from you! Go on vacation, enjoy the time with your boyfriend, and if need be, answer his question.. Your dad will get over it, he has to, unless you want to be asking this same question in ten years… Good luck