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Why is my dad being so mean and not letting me have a boyfriend?

Ok so I’m 13 turning 14 in June. My dad’s being so stubborn. I have a boyfriend, I’ve had one ever since monday. He is 14 and he wants to meet my dad. I tried to play it smooth and asked my dad what he would do If I had a boyfriend. He said he would kill me and if he wanted to meet me he’d chop his legs off. Plus, he’s not even my real dad , he’s my step-father. I don’t understand why he won’t trust me. I’m responsible, an A student, I never get in trouble, school and at home. I clean without being told and I help with the laundry and take care of my brother(10 years old) and sister(8yrs old) when he and my mom are at work. People come to him day and night of how mature I’ve grown ect. I hate it but they got a point. I’m going to high school next year and I’m old enough now. I already made a promise to myself not to get mixed in teen pregnancy, I vowed not to have sex until I’m married and ready for it. I just don’t see the big deal. I’ve known the guy for 4 years (my dad doesnt know that) and my mom knows him too. He just wont just sit down and have an intelligent conversation with me about it. He literly wrote the word “NO!” on my hand and told me to look at it when I was going to ask him something about that.

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Answer #1

He knows what young boys can be like and is not ready to give you up to that! Some guys just want to use girls, and again fathers are very protective of their daughters. I would repect his decision and not fight it. it will earn you so much more respect from him in the long run and he will trust you to make good choices,

Answer #2

I agree with johndeer. Kids need to stop thinking that they’re grown, mature adults, and accept that they are still /chidren/ that don’t need “relationships” (yes, that is in quotation marks because any relationship at that age is a joke).

Answer #3

14 is FAR to young to have a boyfriend OR girlfriend. You are still maturing and going through the many changes of puberty. Having a boyfriend is more likely to prepare you for divorce then marriage.

Answer #4

all dads are like that! my dad is too but hes started to get used to it and deal with the fact that im gonna have boyfriends. so just give it some time.

Answer #5

he probably isnt ready to accept the fact that your growing up. im 15 and have a boyfriend, and my whole family knows, and some people arent happy about it. and he just is probably protective and doesnt want you to get hurt. ivve been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months, and my mom finnally accepted that we arent breaking up anytime soon. just give it some time.

Answer #6

I’m 13 and I think it’s because he cares for you a lot and doesn’t want his girl to grow and all but he definetly trusts you I know that for sure

Answer #7

jealousy? that was my experience with my mums boyfriend… he was over strict and in the end I figured it was because he had a thing for me… he never tried anything but thank god he left

Answer #8

Relationships at that age arent always a “joke” I started dating my boyfriend when I was 14, im 18 now and were still together.

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