Why do I feel so sad about my son growing up?

Thank you everybody for your advice and opinions…they have been comforting 2 me…I do my best when talking to my son not 2 push him away with my overwhelming sense of loss and worries about everything he does, but im certain bc of my up bringing as a child its going to make it extremly hard for me to deal with and then some! I have no idea what it would feel like to be loved by your parents My mother gave me up at 3yrs I was than adopted but given up at the age of 8 and moved 22 different times to foster homes group homes…so I find it hard 2 relate and trust my son will always be there its horrible because I can not let my insecurties and fears of what I went through be an issue for us, his life was and is very different from mine, does anybody understand where im comming from? and if any body has more words of wisdom for me please share.

your probally sad because your not spending enough time with him. have a day with him where you two can talk annd bond about all kinds of things. talk fast and talk abuot a lot of different things so you can feel more fullfilled. spend the whole day talking to eachother, no silence. that shuld make you happier. just get to know eachother. you want to give him good advice and help him learn things to be a good person, but maybe your not as smart or as good as you want to be. but you have to learn and do what you got to do to be happy. tell him all kinds of things like you dont want him to foget abuot you, that you still want to spend time together, and when you do talk a lot. he might not want to be your friend when you want to be his, if thats true, you can try to do things to make him like you, but respect his discision. hes not your property, he’ll do what he wants. find some friends that you can talk to and grow with to make your happy.

spending time with him is definitely the way to go about feeling better..but like you had mentioned he might rather spend time with friends an girlfriends…which is normal, just remember he is only 16 years old. thats still very young an his mind is not fully developed yet to understand completely why mom is feeling a bit down..I would say communication is the first step you should take..obviously by judging the circumstances to the message your had posted…your lost an dont know what to do, which means you probably havent told him about this yet. and you certainly should..even if you get at the very least get him on the phone an just have a nice conversation for a little while..break the ice..and see what hes into doing here lately …like hobbies..maybe a favorite place to eat if mentions something along those lines…after you guys can talk and break ice…you should find that it will be easier to “hang out” more with him..

but on the same note..the feelings you have are quite normal..an I can probably garrenttee they wont go away. just remember to be happy for him, and be there for him when he does come calling for you.

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Take the initiative and go out and spend some time with him. Its alright to feel like that, just be happy for him :)

Sure he might be busy with his own things but after all your his mother and he loves you. He won’t turn down the idea of spending quality time with his own mom! I know I wouldn’t!

I can see why you feel like that I remember this age and hands down id rather hang with the boyfriend or friends than parents your afraid he might do the same with you don’t you? Try your best to spend time with him. Don’t just constantly harass him though try to ask him whenever he has time to spend to spend it with you. I’m sure judging by the circumstances he won’t turn you down :) just have some positive thinking on your side and remember be happy for him