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My Son Stole From My Boyfriend

Last March my boyfriend and I found out that my 13 year old son had been stealing from him. We’re not sure exactly how much he took. We think it was about $60. I punished my son for what he did, and made him pay the money back to my boyfriend. As time has passed by my boyfriend just can’t seem to shake these bad feelings that he has toward my son. I’ve suggested that the two of them need to talk about the situation, because I’ve talked to my son about it and I’ve talked to my boyfriend about it and that has not done anything to help the situation.

We’re at a point right now where something has to be done, because I told my boyfriend the other night that I feel like I can’t relax when the three of us are together. I feel like he only notices the bad things about my son. Of course, he feels bad that I feel that way. But, he also has no idea of a solution to our problem. Neither do I.

We’ve taken two days away from each other to think of possible solutions. When the two days are up I don’t know what will happen. If we don’t come up with anything, I’m afraid that may mean that this will be the end of our relationship.

I’ve been in this relationship for 15 months now. This man treats me with more respect, love, and consideration than anyone ever has. To me he is truly wonderful, and the best thing that has ever happened to my romantic life.

It’s just this one issue. This one BIG issue. And it’s tearing me up thinking that our relationship may come to an end because of it. We both want more than anything to work this out.

Please…if anyone has any suggestions whatsoever…please feel free to share them with me.

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Answer #1

Your son payed his due when he did his punishment and paid your boyfriend back the money. Kids make mistakes, that’s how they learn. From what you have written it seems like the problem lies with your boyfriend, there must be a reason why he can’t let this go. Maybe your son and your boyfriend could try counsling to see if that helps. I myself have seen what happens whena mother has to choose their child over a man they love because my mother had to do the same thing over my older brother. Its a shame that you are in this position, but if your boyfriend truly loves you and treats you good like you say he does then he should see that him not being able to get over it is hurting you and that maybe he should try harder. I hope I was able to help and I wish you the best:)

Answer #2

It was in the past - you talked to him - and your boyfriend should get over it by now.

Teenagers make mistakes - I know I stole money from my parents several times when I was younger. It’s not something to hold against them though. You discipline them and move on .

It sounds like the problem lies within your boyfriend. Why can he not let this go? You really need to talk to him - because it sounds like there might be other reason’s.

Answer #3

Ok well he’s 13, I’ve been living with my mom and step dad since I was 10. I hate him and he will never like your boyfriend, trust me I no what im tlkin about. And my mom says the same for the last 6 years, she can’t relax when it’s the 3 of us bc him and me always fight!! any way I hate him and that’s that. Either you and your boyfriend brake up or stop living together or you just see your boyfriend when your son is not around.

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