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Why cant my fiance see him working so much is ruining our family?

I have been with my fiance for 8 years. We have 2 children together, he does not know how to balance work and home. He works all the time , and I feel so alone. He leaves for work at 5 am and sometimes dont get home till like 7pm ,so he dont even see the baby anymore cause the baby goes down at 7. I just feel like I am a single mom. I love him to death ,we have been together for 8 years.would I really be happier alone or live like this forever. Not to mention when he is home he pays no attention to the kids or me. Our sex life is down the tube because he is always to tired. I understand he is tired he moves furniture for a living. but when you get home that is when I feel its family time even if it is 1hr or so. not to mention he works 7 days a week . I dont know what to do I am lost. anyone who can give me some advice it would be greatly appreciated!

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Answer #1

I do tell him how I feel all the time, believe me I have tried. I do understand he is out there working hard. but my children dont understand that. they just know they dont see their daddy and e more. I try to explain it to our 5 yr. old but he is only 5. he has gotten to the piont that he is asking me if daddy moved out!! we just miss him.. when I try to tell him how I feel it ends up in a fight , so I have learned to shut my mouth ,but then he just thinks it is ok to still do the same stuff. I dont know…when he is home I dont nagg him cause I know he is tired I just ask him to spend time with us…I am a stay at home mother ,I have went out and worked and came home and took care of my family. when your a stay at home mother it is a job. it is the most underpaid job at that. do I get any appreciation??? no so why should I sit there and write him notes telling him how much I appreciate him going out in the world.. THATS A BREAK..compared to what I do..I am tired to but I still find time for my children WE are all they have!!

Answer #2

tell him how you feel.

or threaten to leave him.

Answer #3

This is a common scenario, sadly for you though you are the one who needs to turn around your thinking on this, your fiance is out there doing his best to provide for his family which takes him a long time at a very physically demanding job. Do you work outside of the home or are you staying home to raise the children? Either way you need to show some appreciation for how hard he works to provide and cut him some slack, when is his next day off? Suggest that you go somewhere relaxing as a family, whatever your budget can afford. Right him a little note of appreciation for all he is doing for you and your family, say something like I love that you are willing to work hard to provide for us, I wish you could spend more time with us as a family, we would love to make some fond memories with you. Try to make it his idea to spend more time with you rather than nagging him to do it. Trust me we guys do not see a lot of the other things, we believe that going out and bringing home the bacon is what we are supposed to do and we do not think about the other stuff. It is hard I know but you two can work this out together in a loving and supportive manner.

Answer #4

tell him how you feel

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