Why does my fiance watch so much porn??

porn would stop the sex in a relationship…

infact I’ve always seen it as a relationship enhancer..

if hes hot having sex with you anymore its due to something else and not the porn..

you cant get anyone to stop watching porn.. I mean your telling him hes not allowed to masterbate and this could cause more harm than good.

if its such a concern to you and you really want him to stop then you must talk to him about it.

I’ve just looked at your age and if hes close to your age you might as well belive pigs can fly if your expecting him to stop watching porn.

You need to talk to him about it, ask WHY he is watching it, not all men/boys watch porn to masturbate, some watch it because they are bored, to get new “moves”, because they need something to stimulate them, whatever.

If it’s upsetting you and affecting your self esteem, you need to tell him, let him know how it is hurting your feelings. Porn can bring unrealistic expectations, desires and fantasies in to the bedroom, men thinking all women look like that, they don’t! He might be focusing too much on the porn and not enough on you!

You need to talk to him, no matter what. You need to be able to communicate, or it’s not going to work.

Your to much just maybe his not enough. With porn he can mentally live out a fantasy that he may be to afraid to ask for or to ashamed to admit. But enjoys. It does not mean his going to cheat. To the contrary That gives him a self satisfaction that would otherwise maybe wind up cheating to get. If you stop that outlet and that need to fulfill it is not met. Then your in trouble.

I’ve found that porn DOES screw up relationships, and if you intend to marry him, it needs to end NOW. What has happened is that porn has replaced his sexual outlet. He is most likely addicted like I was. It takes therapy, support, and potentially(but not necessarily) an alternate sexual outlet. But if he can replace that outlet with something else, like reading, writing, playing games, ect., that would be even better, as it teaches him to deal with his urges. Trust me, the urge to view pornography and the things that usually go with it are entirely different from the urge to have sexual relations, but they do have a tendency to get in the way of that latter, and actually can numb(and even hinder) ones ability to emotionally connect.

But he won’t change unless he wants to. You have to get him to want to. I would say make, because he’ll regret it years down the line if he loses out on you and other relationships because of this. But if he leaves you over something like this, obviously you’re not important enough to him. If you truly love him, you might need to leave him to make a point, if but for a short time until he’s willing to deal with this.