I hate all you dumb women who believe what a married man tells you. If he wanted out he would be out and would not need you to get there. I am a wife fighting for my husband of 21 years. Been together since we were 18, one child 19yrs old. Who doesn't live with us. we had it all, paid off house, no kids at home we have the most amazing sex life, very intense. Never fight , best friends. I knew in a week of him doing this. I forced it outta him. It was the worst day of my life we have been on this crazy ride for 9 months now. At first there was all the emotions anger, hurt anger, anger. I thought I couldn't live with it so I filed for divorce which I thought was the right thing because everyone said it was what to do. He begged me for about a week not to leave him but I was so afraid couldn't live with this. Then woke one morning knowing I just wanted my soul mate back my best friend. I decided to let him know I would fight for us and thought he would take me right back but no he was now afraid I would leave him one day thinking I made a mistake taking him back. But I said you will see I will fight for us. So I have been for 5 months, he still sees her. Heres the thing we are still sleeping together, he text me goodnite every night with sweet messages, she knows I am fighting for it. But he tells her I'm not home when I am. She has already cought him in lies about me being home just recently. He says he is worried about losing me thats why he keeps coming back 3 nights a week. He is back to telling me he loves me and he was with me xmas eve,xmas and new years. So he risk her to be with me, and yeah she was home when he left her house to come to me, but she doesn't know that. Their whole relationship is based on lies. I know him so well so I know he is being for the most part honest with me. He says he doesn't know what happened or why he did it. She came up to him at work one day he said he was married but she didn't care. He said he was unhappy and was looking for a way out. He has since told me that was bs. So he has his out why is he not out? At first he said I was the one fighting for it not him and now he is admitting to trying. He comes home wed- fri every week. I don't understand how she doesn't see whats going on. I want to tell her so bad, but I don't want to risk him being mad at me and losing him over telling her. I love him so much and we had such a nice life together and still do 3 nights week. I just want my husband back. I know he is going thru something in his mind and I should give him time., but it's killing me. I know he still loves me and I know she is his ascape from his stress. I warned her he will wake up one day back to his self and realize what he has done and come back and she thinks she will keep him. I know he is working thru issues within himself and I am standing by him, but I am breaking ,stuck in limbo wondering if he really will come home for good. He said he was close to a decision and it's leaning towards me, about 2 weeks ago, but I'm still waiting and I am so sick all the time over it. I am consumed with . I want to say leave and hope he will miss me enough and then return or tell her truth but all this at such a risk. There is so much more to this. Stuff he tells me and things like texting , or sexting me even from her house. He holds me all night when he is here. I see all the post that say he will never leave his wife and I really in my heart believe he will return to me. I wll not let her have him if he picks her I will be telling her everything thats been going on. I told her early into this about us still being together and he told her he would never do it again. And she believed him. Ha only took a week for him to be back in my bed. I know since she cought him in more lies she is now questioning him more and really stressing him out. Yeah it will be one of those if I don't have him she won't have him. If I am broken then she will be too. And even if she takes him back after finding that out she will never trust him and he said she doesn't trust him now. How funny this happened to her after 22 years of marriage, but she just walked away. So how could she one do this to someone when she went thru it and 2 how could she truly trust him? I am seriously close to putting an end to this mess. I love him but he can't do this while trying to figure his stuff out. And he doesn't want to hurt anyone. Ugh!!! And she said but he such a good man...to f/n funny, I just can't face my life with out him. I fall apart with just a thought of it.
I am the other woman. I want to tell you my side of things, and I don't speak for all other women, let me make that clear.
I chose to have an affair because my husband is married to his work and sex isn't important to him. Never has, never will. I live a good life, I am not going to leave my husband for yours. I am the affair that is not wanting a new marriage.
I never make a move on a man...he is the one that approaches me. I don't and never had a one night fling. I like long term affairs. They are passionate and sex is intense and good. It feels the void with are both missing. I only have affairs with men with a good package below the belt. The smaller packages...well, they aren't for me. Maybe someone else. I am only in it for the passion and sex.
I have spoken to lots of men and been on several dates to get to know eachother before deciding to move it to another level. 100% of the men have a commonality. Their wives either or NOT giving them sex or if they are, its like he feels you are doing your duty. HERE IS MY TIP FOR YOU…put out. Spread your legs and let loose in bed. Attitude is everything..fake it if you have to. I don't care if you have been dealing with kids all day or whatever. Just do your hair up..put on some lipstick and when your husband comes home, tell him you want to get naughty tonight. Don't expect him to change overnight, but keep at it. You should be having sex 3-4 times a week even if you are in your 50s!! Give him a morning blowjob to start his day. When you give him "the eye"..it should be the "I want to get it on with you"...not the "I'm pissed and going to nag you" eye. Nobody enjoys a nag. And start bbeing interested in their life, whether you find it interesting or not. Fake it with a smile.
If you don't have a sex drive, go to the doctor and find a med that will help you with it.
Ladies, your husbands want me because I get naughty with them. There are some women who will try to steal your husband from you..they will act interested in your husbands life and put out. Men are simple: feed them, have lots of sex with them, and be interested in their day and their activities. Don't forget about the sex..even if they have a small pecker (fake enjoyment). If you don't feel this is correct, then you might lose your husband or you need to think if your marriage is worth fighting for.
The other woman
I don't mean to be too blunt. I know how hard divorce is. I want you to really think about why he would stop seeing her right now? He gets to have both of you. He feels like he doesn't need to choose since he can have both. You need to stop letting him stay over three nights a week until he wants to stay over for seven nights a week. I am divorced, and I think that you should do all you can to keep him, but I don't think letting him have the best of both worlds is going to help you keep him at all. I think it will ease him out of you. I think that he obviously misses you and after being with you for so long, it's sad to him to not have you in his life. I think that's why he is still with you half of the time. What you are doing by letting him have you those three nights a week is sort of slowly allowing him to get use to not having you around. I don't think it's going to help you keep him at all. I think it's going to hurt your relationship with him more. He won't ever stop seeing her if he doesn't have to, and right now to see you when he wants, he does not have to give her up. Let him go for now, until he figures it out and then I think you will have a real good chance at getting him back. I understand you being scared to give up what you have with him, but think what you have with him right now is going to hinder your relationship permanently. I hope this helped some. May the Lord comfort you in this tough time.
Sincerely,
April
you need to end it with your husband. If he really loves you, he wouldnt be doing this to you. He is getting the best of both worlds right now. He is not going to just realize one day that he should be with you. The best thing you can do is cut it off completely. Then he may realize what he really lost, but still I dont know if its worth taking him back. Its time to more on with your life though.
im a man I thinking wot the hell is this woman doing he's taeking you bout a ride you think he loves cause sneeking around if I was doing that to my wife she would tie my dick in a not a rap my balls aroun my neck I adivice you to do that same!
