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Why won't my husband of 10 years touch me?

I’m trapped in a sexless marriage - no I’m NOT the husband - I’m the wife whose husband won’t touch her, sleep next to her for 2 years now. Is he gay?? Is it porn? Is it an affair?? Is it his age?? Does he think I’m fat? ugly?? Does a man’s libido come to a screeching halt when he hits his late 50’s? Does a woman’s libido increase in her early 50’s?

I’m an attractive 49 yo married to a 61 yo man for 10 years now. I’ve searched the internet for answers, all I find are articles on women who won’t have sex - this really pisses me off. I’ve asked him straight up - What Is It??? I can handle the truth, please just tell me, do I turn you off? Am I not nasty enough?? WHAT IS IT!!!!!! He skirts the issue because I’ve told him I want a divorce - he won’t leave yet he still won’t tell me why he can’t stand to touch me. Funny, he kisses me when I leave for work, when he leaves for work, when I get home, etc. What’s up with that?? He says he loves me but won’t answer my question. For a long time I thought maybe it was my weight (I’m about 150 5’4” - I know, not supermodel but not bad). I’m only 49 not 90 for godsake. I don’t want to live the rest of my life this way but don’t know what to do. Anyone have any answers???

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Answer #1

Maybe his testosterone is low. At age 61 this is a good possibility. Low testosterone will diminish a man’s libido and also keep him from getting an erection. All it takes is a simple blood test to find out so either you or he or both of you could talk to a doctor about having the test done.

Answer #2

Maybe his testosterone is low. At age 61 this is a good possibility. Low testosterone will diminish a man’s libido and also keep him from getting an erection. All it takes is a simple blood test to find out so either you or he or both of you could talk to a doctor about having the test done.

Answer #3

Sounds tricky, there has to be a reason and your husband knows your not going to like it becos he wont tell you, if you have been blunt with him and asked him straight out and he still wont tell you there is something weird going on. Tell him that you want answers otherwise you are leaving, and actually move away from him, that might scare him into talking, or suggest seeing a marriage cousellor together becos something needs to be done, you still have a good amount of years ahead of you, dont spend them being lonely.

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