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Hey! I seem to have the same problem with my mother. She only gets drunk every once in a while and then gets worse, but even when she isn’t drunk, which is most of the time, I can do nothing right. It helps to have someone to talk to—I’m always here if you need me! =) Here’s what I’ve found out about my mother—no promises that yours will act the same way. I do different voices and smile and laugh a lot…even if I force the smiles and laughs, I sound genuine and she softens up a lot. I don’t know how old you are…but if you’re out during the day and something funny happens, remember it! Later, tell her the funny thing that happened. It doesn’t happen right away, but be patient. Keep at it. Keeping a good attitude about this is very important to your well being, and she’ll notice it too. If she asks why the sudden change in attitude, you could strike fast (“I decided that no one could get me down any more. No one has control over my feelings but me.”) or you could go gentle (“I decided to change myself for the better.”). If all you want is for your mom to realize that you want to be loved, start talking every once in a while about personal change. “I needed a change. I want to better myself.” Good luck…I know how you feel.

That must be hard what you are going through.Me and my moom just don’t have a strong relationship anymore.We have nothing to talk about anymore.Good Luck!!!

Hey. Ok so beleiveee me I have the exact same problem with my mother. Nothing I ever do is right. She wants me to do this and be like that and never notices the person I actually am. I started to feel like I didnt know myself because of her. It started to drive me crazy. One night I went into my room and had a good cry. It was just after I turned 17. I realised theres more to life than my mother. I know that sounds bad.. but its true… a mother cannot control your life that way. they have to leave you to go in your own direction. Im not saying I ignored her and went of doing daft things, I acted normal,, I smiled, I told her about my day… and if something came up I would just sigh or grumble but then go to my room and leave her to calm down. Basically you are what you are.. and I promise you… your mum will soften up as you get older. It sounds hard waitin… but just smile and get on with your day.. think about friends aswel.! I hope things get better for you like they did me x

Well I used to have that with my aunt, I remember when I was younger she would get angry at me for not doing something right. But then the older I got the better I got at doing things she asked. Like cleaning, but her comments wouldn’t change, she said I wasn’t doing it right and made nasty comments making me feel like I couldn’t do anything. I realised as I grew older that it wasn’t my fault but hers. Then I asked her as she was telling me off for something I didn’t do. “Why are you so angry all the time?” She got so angry, she litterally blew up. But time went by and it ended up with her crying telling me about all the shit that ever happened to her and why she was so angry all the time.

Now I kind of wish I didn’t know. We don’t talk as much anymore, she can still blow up but I told her I was done. I’m not looking for another disruptive factor in my life. I still lover her to bits, but I can do that over email as well.

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Look I live with my gram and to tell you the truth we dont get along at all I mean like I just start freaking out um…the best thing to do is try to get outta your house it helps but mabey tell someone or even your mom how you feel ask her why she doesnt think you do anything right it will probly help I hopee this helped you