Mom Picking Him Over Me

my mom and I really close most of my friends arent how they are with their mom like I am she is one of the most important people in my life…

but she said she would chose tim over me because I am not forever(since at some point I am going to go and have a family of my own…)

I don’t know how your relationship with your mom is But any person that picks a guys over their child needs some seriouse thinking to do I don’t think that is right

It doesnt matter if he was faithfull. My mum was the same with me , I was second. It’s a horrible feeling that makes you feel like no-one truly wants you. For me this and other things she said and did had a really bad knock on effect in the whole rest of my future life. All I can suggest is that you dont let it affect your future and that you find neighbours, aunties , teachers and family friends to bond with and get affection and guidance from. Try to replace the bond you had to stop her from being able to hurt you like this.

Thats.. a horrible thing to say to you. If my mom ever said that to me I would be crushed. If I were to ask that question to my mom she would probably say “I love you both very much.” or “I love you both the same.” Although I don’t know any problems you and your family may go through and I’m not going to ask.

But to answer your question, no. That wasn’t right for your mom to say at all. Even if she’s scared that your step dad might leave her. You’re her daughter and she’s supposed to do everything in her will to make you happy, and safe. I’d definitely bring it up with her..

No one should ever pick anyone (including their spouse) over their child. I have 3 kids whom I protect against everyone. Maybe your mom is just scared of being alone. She probably feels that if you moved out you would still be her daughter but if your step dad moves out then she has no one. That is definitely not a good way to live but I’m sure she has her reasons (however idiotic they sound to you and everyone else).

She also should of never told you that. That is an absolutely horrible thing for any parent to tell their child.

well I know what you are talkin about because my boyfriends mom did the same thing except they had to move out because of him an she moved back in with him an told him that he was going to the state or going to nashville to live with his aunt. but now she said if his brothers can’t be happy nither can he. so she told him that all of them except her boyfriend was moving to parsons. but now she got a house right beside her boyfriend’s so they didn’t move far an he still has to be around her boyfriend that really sucks to