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What should I do? Age gap relationships?

Here’s my situation. I am 21 and my boyfriend is nearly 40. I love him to pieces and we were good mates before going out. We have been going out for 6 months.

My parents have huge issues with this obviously because of the age and he has been married before and has kids. This does not bother me but it does them. They said they hate it but it’s my life and I should do what I want.

But, I know in my heart that he is never going to be compatible with my family. I am never going to be able to bring him home, or really even talk about him with them without it going down badly or me feeling guilty. It’s stressing me out heaps! So what should I do? Wait it out and see what happens, break up with him now so as to not break his heart so much or what? I love him t pieces and he is a really great guy who has just had some bad stuff happen to him.

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Answer #1

when ull be 41 your boyfriend would be 61 he wouldnt be able to take care of himself then then how can he look after u. life is a gift and we never get it on every birth day so be careful regarding your life. just think before you take anystep and tull defineatly find some one of your age who will love u.

Answer #2

dont break up with someone you love plus, your 21 the age gap isnt as bad as it would have been if you were a teenager and under 18 your an adult now too I would say try bringing him to meet your parents, he could tell them how much of a nice guy he is, that hes not going to hurt you, and a bit about him, ect maybe if they got to know him a bit more they might not hate him so much

Answer #3

He really is fantastic. He is a Christian like me and we fit together like clockwork. I wish he was my age every single day. But my family is my family, even if I wanted to I couldn’t chose him over them and I want to be able to have a guy I can bring home at Christmas time etc. I guess I just wanted people to say whether I should wait or not and see how it works out.

Answer #4

Be safe. I have that going on but In amuch smaller basis. He’s 18 and 5 years older than me. Don’t feel guilty either because that won’t help at all. Do what you want to and think is right but be safe. Just wait and see what happens. Chances are you will fi d someone much better for you and your same age just keep looking. But if he makes you feel right. … Just for now go for it. Make your own mistakes. You will have to sometime

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