What do you think of this Family situations whose the abusive ones?

‘If it keeps up, I’ll have him talk to his therapist’

What exactly do you think that is going to solve?

And yes, I know, it is hard to say I’ll break it off if he continues. But abuse is abuse. Verbal, physical, emotional. Why on earth is it worse if he actually raises a hand? Personally, I think physical abuse isn’t a lot worse than verbal or emotional. Those scars dont go away.

I hate to say it, but you should not build a future with this guy. Your Mom is right. No matter how you feel about him it is not going to end well. Anyone who has been in a situation like this knows it is just starting for you. Anyone who has been in this situation also knows that when it is happening to you, you make excuses that “it’s not like that” “that won’t happen” “but I love him and he treats me good”. It is going to get worse, and physical abuse will happen. He won’t be able to stop himself and you won’t be able to stop him either.

Your mother obviously knows the signs of an abuser. And he’s got quite a few of them. You add a tendency to be violent to bipolar disorder and you’re just asking for trouble. You think abusers start out by being physically violent? Emotional/Verbal abuse is always where it starts. Uhm I kinda feel bad for your parents. I’m not quite sure what I’d do if my kid disrespected me to that point and then allowed their boyfriend/girlfriend to disrespect me. You have no respect for your parents. That is just really sad.

No abuse, no matter what type or how excusible, is gd. As far as your family and your boyfriend goes they are just trying to look out for you. They did go to far tho. If you haven’t already tried you should talk to your family about it and try to get them to understand and let you see him again. If it doesn’t work you can move out. I suggest you don’t move in with your boyfriend. He may be an amazing guy but you are gonna be 18 years old not thirty, give yourself time. Your likes and dislikes are going to change soon so will you needs and wants. Learn how to take care of yourself and then if you still want to move in with your boyfriend.

yes, I agree. Which is why I talked to him about the name calling. I just did it recently we’ll see how it goes.

I wanted to move in with him a long awhile before this. I understand your concern, I am going to college, and ill be done by September 2011. I’ll have a good job. If anything happens I’ll just move out. My mom said if he gets abusive she’ll let me come home to.

My mom is now denying pulling my hair.. I know she pulled my hair. Of course that was after I pushed her.. So it was my doing in that part. But it pisses me off they are denying this all now..

Also to note.. He knows if he ever hit me. I’d leave right there and then..