What if I want to keep my baby and I'm 13?

Dear 13_and_pregnant6623, Everyone makes mistakes and getting pregnant perhaps is your biggy…But you’ve learned from it and that is very, very important. I understand that you don’t want to give up the child or put the baby up for adoption but in reality you are going to have to make a choice. You are too young to keep and raise a child. Even if you had family support the child would not be given a fair start in life if you were to raise it yourself. At 13 you are not of mature enough mind to emotionally and I doubt financially raise a child. A child raised in a home this way ends up not being sure of who is who and boundries tend to get mixed up. You need to go to your health clinic and ask to speak with a family counsellor there. They will give you all your options and I highly doubt one would be to keep the child. Some mistakes cannot be corrected but all mistakes when dealt with properly can be a learning and a strengthening experience. Seek out some professional help, you owe it to yourself and the child. Sue…good luck

If you really are pregnant, you need to get real (and fast!)… You are 13 years old- there is no way you can get a job and supprt this child- just no way. I know you are having wonderful fantasies about raising your adorable little baby and how great it will be. But the reality is - it’s not gonna happen. Please let this baby go to a family that can completely care for it the way he/she deserves to be taken care of. - You can even do one of those open adoption deals where you get a photo of the child every birthday so you can keep track of the child’s life. I have a friend who did this (she was 16 when she gave birth to him) and it worked out great, her son just turned 18 and has recently contacted her, so now they even have a relationship… You have plenty of time to have a family of your own- give yourself another 13 years next time! Please!

I suggest you contact http://www.lifedynam… They are a group that can assist you. I’m very much against Abortion. . Now Contact Life dynamics they can help you and your mom and get both of you counseling.

did u keep him/her???

I think u should have kept him/her because its your baby and just because u are a child dont mean that u cant give your baby all the love he/she needs and more!

I think you should consider adoption , you have your whole life to have a baby , they can cost up to 100.000 or more , and you can always visit s/he anytime you want , but if you do want to keep it , you need to sit down and ask yourself these questions , : am I fit to have a baby ? , will my parents be there for me ? , will I be able to go to school ? , will the father be there for me ? , I wish the best for you and your baby , take care , and god bless you

okay. I see that a lot of people are calling this a mistake! that baby is not a mistake! this was meant to happen. just be careful. its okay. funmail me if you need to talk!

If you think you have what it takes to raise a child, like a healthy enviornment, family that supports you, and its father that’s there for the baby then do what you want. but if the baby doesn’t have a father then it will be a lot tougher.

Hun, im 14 and pregnant. Theres no need to worry this much about it. If you want to keep the baby then you need to go over questions with ur self consider these: am i fit to have a baby? can i go back to school with people knowing im a mom? will i beable to aford this baby? will I beable to love and care for this baby while going through teenage stuff?

Me personaly is keeping the baby. I am 7 months pregnant and my mom and dad know about it and are very supportive My boyfriend is very suportive, he is 19 and we are still together, I love him sooo much and he loves me the same way :)

i’ve known a lot of girls who got pregnant really early most decided to have abortions and not even tell their moms if u really want this child just know ur life is pretty much over. im not going to sit here and say DONT HAVE THAT KID UR GONNA WORK TOO HARD because ur asking for advice not for people to change ur mind about what u want u’ve chosen what u want

im sure ur family will be there for support but that does not mean it will be easier for u. and if thats wat u really want just know ur consequences. u will work hard for that baby and at the age of 13 ur going to miss out on sooo much stuff

already had my baby

omg do not have that baby…it will ruin your life…