unplanned prgancy-what shouldd I doo!?.

hey everyonee. I am 15 and im pritty sure I am pregnant. but heres the thing me and my ex arent together anymore so I dontt know what to do!. and I dont know how too tell my mom causee im scaredd of howw she will reacct!. I jusst need somee goodd advicee!. the wosrt thing is, is that I still love my ex.. butt he doesnt want to get backk together rightt noww, andd he also wants me to get an abortion. but I dont know if I could do that! I mean id feel so badd!. what should I do!?. should I get ann abortion, or have the baby and the put it up for adoption?. those are really my 2 options I think because I just cant keep it. I mean I want to so much but I want it to have a good life!. whaat should I do!?. I reaaly need somee advice!. thankk youu!.<3

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Answer #1

if you have a plan parenthood around, they give you tons of free clothes, diapers, baby furniture and other stuff that you may need. They also give you free pregnancy tests. Get tested and if it’s positive then tell your mother and father and boyfriend at the same time. don’t be ashamed, being pregnant is the gift of life. i got pregnant when i was 13 and the father was 15. Now im 16 and he’s almost 18 and it’s hard to keep a child but would you rather abort? First find out how far along you are. If you are about 5 months and down, you can abort, but it gets you worse emotionally. If you go through you may have complications. I had my daughter 2 and a 1/2 months early b/c i am so small and my body couldnt hold her any longer. as for the boyfriend, i wouldn’t be sure if he would stick around. #1 how old is he #2 does he work #3 do you both plan on staying togther—anyway the only problems i have is that im 16 and don’t feel like a teenager at all. i don’t really fit in and i hate that BUT when everyone’s having kids later on, ill be in the bars lol. seriousely talk to your parents. they will be shocked but if they love you, they will get you through this. if you decide to keep the baby. i would suggest finding a WIC near you for free fruits, veggies, juices, cereal, milk etc.. they give the checks for you and your baby for free for stuff like that. also find like a thrift store like the salvation army and buy cheap baby stuff that you need. in the first 3 months, you may puke a lot, the 2nd trimester, you may be happy and the last trimester, you cant wait for it to arrive!! you glow and your skin actually gets enhanced and everyone loves t see a pregnant mom. once you find out you are, get scheduled for a gynacoligical exam and at about 3-5 months, you can find out the sex of the baby!! talk to me if ya need anyting else.and if you get an abortion past 3 months, they put a tube inside of your vagina and drill a hole into the childs head and suck out their brains. and yes they feel pain!!! when you abort them, you actually see the child after it’s out of you and it’s terrible b/c that could’ve been your child graduating from preschool. don’t hurt the child b/c it was a mistake. everything happens for a reason. i asked god if i could have a best friend b/c i was so lonely and then i got pregnant. by accident of course..

Answer #2

YOU NEED TO GO TO YOUR PARENTS BEFORE YOU DO SOMETHING THAT DRASTIC AND WHY ARE YOU HAVING SEX AT 15 YRS OLD???? YOU ARE TOO YOUNG FOR THAT AND TOO YOUNG TO KNOW WHAT LOVE IS. BEFORE YOU MAKE ANYMORE MISTAKES….GO TO YOUR PARENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer #3

Take the test hun. If its positive, tell your mom asap. Just do it, so you guys can come up with a solution. Dont lie to her, It will make things worse when she finds out the truth later. Sure,she probably wont be happy, but you know your mom the best. Its your call.

Answer #4

take the test make sure you are really pregnant and if you are tell your parents soon so that you can make a decision before it’s to late tell your ex that he doesn’t have to be there but you do what you have to do to make the best for your child. i advise you to have the baby and then put it up for adoption instead of havin an abortion

Answer #5

Alright, first thing, take a pregnancy test; make sure you are or aren’t pregnant. Secondly, tell your parents. sure, they may be disappointed in you, or maybe even angry, but I am sure that your parents love you and will have advice for you. Another thing, DO NOT get an abortion. Why would you invite life into this world, just to destroy it? unless this potential child is risking your life, the worst thing in my mind is to have an abortion. Also, you should definitely look into adoption agencies. I was adopted when I was a baby, because an unmarried 19 year old got pregnant. I now know her, and she is a great lady, she loved me, so she gave me what I would need - a mother and father who could provide for me better than she could. If you are pregnant, and you love your child, consider adoption. I hope this helps a bit.

Answer #6

Personally, I am totally against abortion, but it is your body and no one can tell you what to do with it. I’d say don’t have an abortion. What you really need right now is the support of your mom. You are going to need her help should you decide to have this child. The longer you go without any help, the riskier it will be for you and your baby. You will need regular check-ups. Maybe you will just consider adoption if you are unprepared to raise a child. You are still a child yourself, and a baby is a huge responsibility. I wish you a lot of luck, and I just hope you will do what is best for your child.

Answer #7

Hi and ((big hugs))

I agree with most of the replies that the first thing you should do it to take the pregnancy test. If it is positive then talk with your parents (or another adult that you feel comfortable talking to) They may be angry or disappointed at first but will like the fact you were mature enough to come talk to them about it. They can help you make the decision that is right for you. I feel adoption (we have adopted 3 little ones) is a better option then abortion, but again..that is your choice.

I will keep you in my thoughts–please feel free to send me email if you would like to chat more.

Answer #8

Well if you want to stay out of trouble, if u find out you are pregnant, tell your parents “i was raped a back in (when ever), i didnt want to tell you b/c i was scared, and i dint want (your ex) to break up with me” .You will have to think of more to tell them like where u were at and stuff, because i dont know your life and what u do, maybe at a friends house or something. i hope i helped some. ttyl

Answer #9

wow you were pregnant when you were 13!!! NO COMMENTS!!!