What should I do about my unplanned pregnancy?

I am 13 years of age. if I dont want to have my baby if im 2-3 months what should I eat or drink so I cant have the baby

Answer #1

I think the people’s resonses to you have been pretty shitty, NO your really not supposed to be having sex that young, but tons of peope do because of love or lust or whatever. I started having sex at 14 and did get pregnant, and I had planned to keep it but lost the baby unfortunately. I do know that planned parenthood will give you an abortion for free as long as you say you have no insurance, and LEGALLY they cant tell your parents. I know youre scared, but really really think about what you decide. Having the baby will be a lifetime responsibility, but abortion will really hurt you emotionally. Having a miscarraige hurt me badly, even now, and im 18. Most of all know that you DONT DESERVE THIS as a lesson well learned just because you’re having sex young [ AHEM noworneverdevestation]. I know this is hard for you but dont ever think its your fault. After this incident just go on birth control, which planned parenthood will give you for free too. take care babygirl.

Answer #2

um…i dont believe in abortion but your way 2 young and you need to tell your parents so you can go have that done…you shouldnt be doing that at souch a young age its just stupid you know this could happen and it has…you need to think of abortion or dealing with your problems like the adult you thought you were..

Answer #3

why would you do that I have a brother who is 14 and hasent had a date yet pluse hes turning 15 in 6 months and he chose to not have dates…

Answer #4

Well… like the others have said, You cant just eat or drink something to make it go away… I believe in abortion when things like this happens. You are way to young to be having sex and this is your leason well learned. Even if you have the baby. Give it up for adoption. Only because you are not ready. I have many friends who are 16 and 17 having babies. They just arnt ready for them. Tell your parents. And if nothing else (if your to scared to tell your parents) talk to a close friend or a teacher or someone else. You need help and fast. Im sorry this has happend to you. But you are to young and know nothing about this. goodluck. and please keep me informed about everything. be SAFE! and dont have sex till your OLD ENOUGH.

peaceee

Answer #5

THIS SADDENS ME, AT 13 IT IS A LOT OF PRESSURE ON YOU RIGHT NOW. DON’T DO ANYTHING DRASTIC. TRYING O EAT OR DRINK SOMETHING TO POISON YOUR BABY MAY ONLY CAUSE MORE PROBLEMS. IT MAY ALSO HURT YOU VERY BADLY. NOT ONLY PHYSICALLY BUT MENTALLY. YOU NEED TO TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL DOCTOR OR NURSE. LISTEN, YOU MADE A VERY GROWN UP CHOICE BY LAYING DOWN WITH SOMEONE, THAT DOES NOT MATTER NOW, NOW SOMETHING MUCH BIGGER IS AT STAKE. YOU CAN’T JUST PRETEND THIS BABY NEVER HAPPENED. IF YOU DID LOSE YOUR CHILD ON PURPOSE YOU WOULD CARRY THAT NIGHTMARE AROUND WITH YOU FOREVER. LOOK IN YOUR HEART AND MAKE A RESPONSIBLE CHOICE. THAT CHOICE MAY NOT BE THE SAME FOR EVERYONE SO I AM NOT TRYING TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO BUT TO LET YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE OTHER OPTIONS. GO TALK TO SOMEONE FACE TO FACE, THEY HAVE MANY CLINICS AND GOOD PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT MAY PUT SOME BETTER CHOICES IN YOUR HANDS. YOU KNOW YOU CAN EVEN PICK AN ADDOPTED FAMILY, OR TALK TO YOUR PARENTS. I DON’T KNOW IF THEY KNOW, EVEN THOUGH THEY GET MAD, THEY LOVE YOU.

Answer #6

I am sorry about the situation you are in. Please don’t hurt your self and the baby.

Answer #7

did you ever deside if you were putting it up for adoption?

Answer #8

At 2-3 months there’s not much you can do. You should seek the advice of your health care provider.

After 63 days, vacuum aspiration is your only abortion option during the first trimester, which is calculated as the first 14 weeks after the first day of a woman’s last menstrual period.

After the first trimester, dilation and evacuation (D&E) is the most common abortion procedure. In a D&E, the cervix is slowly stretched open. The procedure is completed by emptying the uterus using a combination of suction and medical instruments. Another option, induction — in which premature labor is induced with various medicines — is not widely available.

If you choose abortion, you will also want to compare the benefits, risks, and side effects of each of your options. For example, both medication abortion and early vacuum aspiration are extremely safe. But current data suggest that medication abortion may carry a higher risk of death than early vacuum aspiration abortion. Even so, both procedures are much safer than abortion later in pregnancy or carrying a pregnancy to term.

Since you are a minor, you will have to tell your parents either way so you might as well get the conversation over with now.

You should then get on an effective form of birth control. Most hormonal options are effective.

Answer #9

You can’t just eat or drink something to not have a baby. It’s more compicated. You will need to give it up for adoption after it’s born or something else. But I am only suggesting that, because that’s all I believe in. Btw, why would you be having sex when your’re only thirteen?

Answer #10

Whoaaa baby girl! Your 13 and your 2-3 months. First of all, Im not here to judge you, ummm just your parents in that case. you should already know first that your wayyy tooo young to be sexually active, if you were sexually abused by a family member and impregnated you definitley need to call CPS. Second you definitly dont want the baby it sounds like, so instead of trying to kill the baby, because sweety that baby already has a heartbeat and little legs and arms growing, you should think about looking into adopting your baby out to someone. Don’t do anything or take anything that will put you at a risk and definitley not your child either. Its too late for an abortion sweetness. It just makes me mad when parents aren’t involved in their children’s lives like they should be.

Answer #11

Are you dumb? Ugh, I hate seeing posts like this I really do. Just because you made a mistake you cant just go and “eat or drink” something to get rid of it. Use your head…Grrr.

Answer #12

if you try to drink something to kill the baby, then hopefully you’’ll kill yourself in the process. the child never did anything but live. if you have a plan parenthood around, they give you tons of free clothes, diapers, baby furniture and other stuff that you may need. They also give you free pregnancy tests. Get tested and if it’s positive then tell your mother and father and boyfriend at the same time. don’t be ashamed, being pregnant is the gift of life. i got pregnant when i was 13 and the father was 15. Now im 16 and he’s almost 18 and it’s hard to keep a child but would you rather abort? First find out how far along you are. If you are about 5 months and down, you can abort, but it gets you worse emotionally. If you go through you may have complications. I had my daughter 2 and a 1/2 months early b/c i am so small and my body couldnt hold her any longer. as for the boyfriend, i wouldn’t be sure if he would stick around. #1 how old is he #2 does he work #3 do you both plan on staying togther—anyway the only problems i have is that im 16 and don’t feel like a teenager at all. i don’t really fit in and i hate that BUT when everyone’s having kids later on, ill be in the bars lol. seriousely talk to your parents. they will be shocked but if they love you, they will get you through this. if you decide to keep the baby. i would suggest finding a WIC near you for free fruits, veggies, juices, cereal, milk etc.. they give the checks for you and your baby for free for stuff like that. also find like a thrift store like the salvation army and buy cheap baby stuff that you need. in the first 3 months, you may puke a lot, the 2nd trimester, you may be happy and the last trimester, you cant wait for it to arrive!! you glow and your skin actually gets enhanced and everyone loves t see a pregnant mom. once you find out you are, get scheduled for a gynacoligical exam and at about 3-5 months, you can find out the sex of the baby!! talk to me if ya need anyting else.and if you get an abortion past 3 months, they put a tube inside of your vagina and drill a hole into the childs head and suck out their brains. and yes they feel pain!!! when you abort them, you actually see the child after it’s out of you and it’s terrible b/c that could’ve been your child graduating from preschool. don’t hurt the child b/c it was a mistake. everything happens for a reason. i asked god if i could have a best friend b/c i was so lonely and then i got pregnant. by accident of course..

Answer #13

“”In this land that cherishes individual rights and liberties a woman has the constitutional right to make her own reproductive decisions, and I support that right wholeheartedly.””

We shouldn’t judge her or condemn her for having sex at an early age. (or for wanting to terminate the pregnancy) We should address the question and issue at hand and provide the best possible advice.

As far as your parents knowing- it depends on what state you live in. In most states you have to have parental consent for abortion and adoption if you’re a minor. There are other states that are opposite. If this is an issue for you, you may want to seek a legal adviser as well.

True or False

  1. No one is pressuring me to choose abortion. [ ] [ ]
  2. I have strong religious beliefs against abortion. [ ] [ ]
  3. I look down on women who have abortions. [ ] [ ]
  4. I’d rather have a child at another time. [ ] [ ]
  5. I can afford to have another child. [ ] [ ]
  6. I can afford to have an abortion. [ ] [ ]
  7. I care about what other people will think. [ ] [ ]
  8. I can handle the abortion experience. [ ] [ ]
  9. I’ll go before a judge if necessary. [ ] [ ]
  10. I would do anything to end this pregnancy. [ ] [ ]

Think about whether or not your answers suggest that abortion might be right for you.

You can get abortion information and assistance at Planned Parenthood and other family planning centers, women’s health centers, youth centers, and departments of health or social services. Or you can call the National Abortion Federation hotline: 1-800-772-9100.

To make an appointment with the Planned Parenthood center nearest you for information about abortion and your other pregnancy options, call toll-free 1-800-230-PLAN.

Answer #14

Sorry, but there is nothing you can eat or drink to lose your baby. And, depending on how far along you are now,you may not even be able to get an abortion(You can only do it up to 2 or 3 months.. I’m not 100% positive) So, you are going to have to make a big desicion… Either, you keep the baby, maybe you’re parents will help, the boys family, or you give birth and put it up for adoption. But the adoption process will have to be started soon, or you may get attached once the baby is here,and you wont want to give it up. One more thing though, why are you having sex at 13, and why are you having unportected sex at 13, didn’t anyone teach you the concequences!!! I don’t want to sound like your mother or anything like that, and it is totally up to you whether you want to keep or give it up for adoption, but if you are “mature” enough to have sex (UNPROTECTED) Then you should be able to own up to your mistakes and take care of the baby… It would be like if you killed someone and expected not to go to jail, you are obviously going to go. Whether you keep the baby or not.. be smart next time.

Answer #15

You can’t eat or drink anything to have a miscarriage. Unless you went like anorexic or bulimic for like a month, which I don’t recommend!

Well, you could get an abortion if you’re willing to deal with that emotional pain, or you can give it up for adoption, or care for it yourself.

I may get some ridicule for this, but if I was you I would either have an abortion or have my parents help me care for it, I know they would help.

And let me tell ya, next time you have sex, go on the pill and use a condom! Both is double protection!

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