This girl is trying to steal my boyfriend and he's letting her?!!!

I talked to my mom about this and I just want someone’s opinion. My boyfriend keeps in contact with some of his ex-girlfriends but that’s fine with me. I have another issue which is really bothering me. There’s this girl I didn’t know about who’s lately been calling him and trying to hang out with him all the time. My boyfriend told me that he used to like her and he tried to have sex her but never got the chance. I don’t really feel comfortable with my boyfriend keeping up with a girl who was a possibility. He says he doesn’t like her anymore but she’s always calling him and stuff and it really urks me because she knows he has a girlfriend and is in a relationship. We got into a big argument over it and we made up and he told me that he would never talk to her again. Now I found out that he sent a message to her on myspace talking about why she didn’t call him back and he thought she was busy because she had a boyfriend. I am really angry because basically she called him and he is sending her that message looks like he wants her to call him and he wants to talk to her even though he says he doesn’t like her anymore. I think he’s lying. he already knows I have a problem with all this so why does he continue to talk to her? I don’t talk to guys I know like me because I don’t want them to get the idea that I like them back. and it looks like he wants her to talk to him and he wants to hang out with her.

Answer #1

Im going through the same thing and I think everyone goes through this at least once in their lifetime, it hurts but we’ll get over it…and the girl thats trying to steal my boyfriend was IMing me today and she said lylas!!! LYLAS!!! GRR!!! lol

Answer #2

Yea, for sure dump him. He shouldn’t be treating you unfairly and talking to his ex’s all the time, whether its in front of you or behind your back, although the latter is even worse. Find a man that doesn’t have very many ex’s, hangs out and stuff without drama, you’ll be much happier. Trust me, there’s so many men in this world it’s hard to believe you’ve actually found love. especially with how young you sound. Not being mean, just saying. If you have any more problems I would love to talk, I’m very honest and open about relationships. good luck girl!

Answer #3

Sorry, but theres no reason why a guy would have to stay in contact with his ex’s. I dont, and would never do that to my boyfriend. I dont know how you can sit there & blame this girl…she wouldnt keep contacting him if she wasnt getting any response back. So you need to talk to you boyfriend because hes obviously lieing to you. We got into a big argument over it and we made up and he told me that he would never talk to her again. Now I found out that he sent a message to her on myspace talking about why she didn’t call him back>>Hun, you really have to stop being naive. If he didnt like her, then why is he even talking to her? Your boyfriend doesnt sound very trustworthy, or honest! In my opinion, he wants his cake and eat it too!

Answer #4

Steal him? He’s a person, not a dog? Not to mention he seems to be initiating this… Talk to him, but seriously, if he’s going to go, you’re probably better off without him…

Answer #5

I don’t want to seem mean, but maybe he’s getting bored. Some guys can just get bored of a deep loving relationship in a second, given another girl likes them and they have another relationship to fall back on.

I believe that you are right and that he does want to talk to this girl. Just talk to him calmly about it and ask him if he wishes to stay with you, or go with the skank. Although I could be wrong, but that’s just my opinion.

Answer #6

Oh my gosh.I’m having the same EXACT problem. THis girl went to my boyfriends church and they used to date and he told me he doesnt like her anymore so I trusted him. and then guess what?! they made out!! and so, now they are going out! Girl, I think you need to do anything you can to get them to stay apart from each other!!!

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