When should I let my boyfriend teach me to have sex?

Im 14 and my boyfriend is 15 (9months) dif. And hes gone all the way with a girl and now he wants to start teaching me frist he wants to start with finger me then spanking me in weird ways I geuss and move on to other stuff I dont no if im comfortable with this or not he has tried to do it with me but I stopped him…I love him and completly trust him I just not sure what 2 do he said when I get up 2 his level hes going fk me and fk me hard and im going 2 like it I just dont get whats going on…plezz anwser back really soon

Answer #1

I’ve been in a relationship like this and it diddn´t work out guys like this are just after one thing …sex.and it sounds like your not ready and he is pressuring you.you dont need some one like that you need a guy who is there for the eomotional and fisical part of you. all the best jessi♥

Answer #2

I find this boyfriend of yours to be particularly disgusting. For quite a few reasons actually, I have a feeling that your boyfriend came to be your boyfriend simply because he found you physically enticing to him. He seems to want to pressure you into having sex with him, of course he’s making it seem like it’s some kind of educational game. 9 months isn’t a very long time to think about sexual things with your boyfriend but I doubt even within a year I would consider doing anything sexual with my girlfriend. He’s already pushing things ahead and you don’t like it, it’s easy to tell. You’re asking what to do with him, first of all, tell him to stop. He should know that you have boundaries and you don’t feel comfortable doing any of this.

When I read the part about the spanking, the first thing that came to mind is controlling you. Spanking is a sign of dominance, it’s an unusual sign for dominance but it means he wants to control you. This kind of behavior is not something that you want in a relationship. It seems to me that he’s gotten to you and is taking advantage of that, he knows that you love him and is using that to get what he wants. Going further down your question, I noticed that you mentioned he said he’s going to pretty much screw the daylights out of you. Personally, that’s disgusting, I don’t think I would ever refer to sex as something like that. Personally, the way he define sex is basically something that is good for him and is how he wants it to be. He hasn’t taken how you felt about all of this into consideration. Imagine when you do have sex, how would you feel being roughly abused? It’s not pleasant because he just wants to please himself and hasn’t even considered how you felt. I’m not sure but he doesn’t even seem aware of the dangers of sex, you could end up pregnant or possibly contract an STD that he never mentioned to you. That’s not something you want either, his selfish personality is quite the mouthful.

Honestly, your boyfriend has some pretty strange fetishes. I’m not fond of him but you have the choice to stay with him, personally I would break up with him. His snob-like attitude would get a kick in the balls from any chick on the street. To be honest, he only seems to want to date you for the sexual aspect and is training you to meet his needs as a man. Is that something that you want? It doesn’t sound great and I wouldn’t stay with him. Think this over and I hope you make the right choice.

Answer #3

Hunn, from the sounds of it, your boyfriend is just a scumbag loser who only wants sex. Don’t let him force you to have sex. If you don’t feel right, tell him! Say no. Don’t let him try to convince you otherwise. You’re still so young and have you’re life ahead of you! Don’t be afraid to tell him how you feel, and if he argues back saying that you should try it, thats a sign where you should break up with him. You’ll find so much better if it comes down to that! You’ll find a boy who will wait for you, and will love you for you and not just your body. Don’t let this guy take something away from you like this. If you don’t feel comfortable, then don’t be afraid to say NO!

Answer #4

this guys a creeper..

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