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how can i stop being sad over this?

for some reason latley i have been really sad about my mom…. im not very close to her i have never been and i feel like as im getting older it bugs me more im not quite sure why..but growing up i saw my mom every other weekend and i have never felt like she cared even when i was younger but it never bothered me all that much because i have always had my dad he kinda acting like a mom n a dad…. but my mom is the type of person that neverrr calls she hardly ever says i love you.. and i member when i was in 5th grade i stopped seeing my mom for 2 years because my older brother would hit me n she did nothing about it.. so i dident wanna go to her house n she never called me for 2 years n she even got married and dident invite me or my little brother… n as im getting older i feel like i have missed out on having a mom n it really hurts my feelings cause even though ik she loves me n ik she cares she dosent act like it n sometimes i feel she dosent… and even now that im 19 i hardly talk to her i still see her every other weekend but its weird like when its just me n her its awkward just go to her house to see my little brother n sister.. and i dont talk to her like i do with my dad im comfortable talking to him and im not with my mom like when i talk to her she just acts like she dosent care n i feel like she dosent care n shes not only this way with me shes this way with all my siblings she has 7 kids but shes raised none of them n my older brother hates her,….. he dosent talk to her n she makes no effort to n i feel like when im older im not gonna talk to her cause im not gonna try to have a relationship with some one that puts no effort in it.. but sorry i typed alot just had to get it off my chest cause it has really been bugging me

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Answer #1

Sounds like your mom is a very selfish person. That and, she’s got some issues within herself that prevent her from caring. Wonder what her childhood was like? Does your dad ever say anything about it and do you have grandparents (moms side)?

Answer #2

ya thats what my dad always says.. because she puts herself before all of us.. and my parents arent together my dad has custody over me n my little brother my mom lost custody cause she dident show up to court… n i have no clue i dont know much about my mom she dosent talk about when she was little but she had my older sister when she was 16 years old… my dad hates on my mom he dosent like her and he gets mad that she hasent been there for me n my little brother n he dosent talk about when she was younger n i do i have only met my grandpa once he lives far away n my grandma i know her i dont talk to her much but shes exactly like my mom she hasent raised any of her kids either shes pretty mean n she reminds me of my mom like i cant really talk to my grandma i remember once shes like oh hows your dads mom doing…? im like oh she pasted away a couple years ago n shes just like oh n then i told her about my family on my dads side how we dont talk to them cause of drama n shes just like oh,,,, n she does the same thing as my mom like they dont seem to really care… thats why i dont talk to my mom much cause she dosent seem to care what im saying n i have told my dad that n hes just like cause she dosent care thats how your mom is…..

Answer #3

Yea, I can understand your dad’s frustration. I’m really sorry that your mom isn’t and hasn’t been there for you the way that you needed her to be. I can’t imagine what’s that like since I’ve had quite the opposite kind of mom. You know… there isn’t anything that you can do except for let her know how you feel. And even that might cause you greater pain since she probably won’t react in the way that you would hope for. It stinks. Luckily tho, you have a supportive and loving dad which is a fantastic thing. Focus on him. Tell him how much you love and appreciate him and all that he did/does for you. Keep that bond strong because having a strong bond with one parent is better than not having one at all.

Answer #4

ya i dont understand why she had so much kids… when she hasent been there for any or taken care of any of us its what ever i just know when imma mom one day imma be nothing like her… cause i honestly dont know how parents can be that way but ya thats so true im really lucky to have a dad like him but anyways thanks for answering just talking about it helped alot

Answer #5

Any time. I’m here to help :))

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