How to get them to stop thinking I'm going to be like my sister?

I think maybe your sister has caused them so much concern that by them saying it, they are actually trying to prepare themselves for all the same trouble again. it’s unfair to judge you by your sisters actions.

next time, just say to them, ‘what have I ever done to make you think I am gonig to be like my sister? I know you have been hurt by her, but the comments you make, when I have done noting wrong are unfair and hurt me’

parents feel they treat all their children the same, so surely they should be the same? wrong! but you need to just prove yourself, if you don’t get anywhere with what I just said, just perservere and be the more mature…one day, they’ll realise…

I understand what you’re saying about hate, but I think some of that is resentment because you feel you’re being judged by her standards. family are family, you don’t have to like them, but they are an integral part of your life. I love my little brother, but I don’t see my gib brother, he’s a selfish millionaire who is governed by his money, when I have little. I don’t hate HIM for his money, I hate what the money has done to him, but you only let things or people do something to you if you either want to, or your prepared to live with it most of the time I’m talking money FYI)

I know you don’t like your sister, but you need to decipher why, is it because of how she is or what she does? if so, she will probably gorw out of it one day, not everyone gets it right I’m afraid…