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How can I stop my mother from hurting me with things she says?

my mum spreads untrue rumours about me she picks on me even for the way I look I failed 2 subjects out of 5 last semester in university and now shes telling all our relatives

sometimes I dont know what to do and just cry I cant take it, I feel extremely depressed because of this

the only solution I can think of is to stay away from her I dont live with her but she lives close by

how can I stop crying I cant even study because im so sad most of the time

please help me

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Answer #1

Smoke a blunt

Answer #2

I agree. Don’t tell her anything about yourself. Keep your distance. She is your mother, so call her once a week. Ask how she is doing. Be polite. Do not give her any information that she can use to attack you. Just tell her you are doing fine (even if you are not). If she starts to berate you, politely tell her you are going to hang up now for X reason, do not give her a chance to respond, just hang up the phone.

If she is bad mouthing you to family, and they feel the need to tell you about it, politely tell them you are not interested and change the subject.

Be strong. Surround yourself with good, positive people and you should be ok.

Good luck to you. You can do this!

Answer #3

Your mother obviously has her own self-esteem issues and is compensating by making you look bad. She’s displaying a very juvenile attitude, and she should be ashamed of herself.

The best thing you can do is keep to yourself. Don’t give her any information that she can use against you. If she asks why you aren’t telling her anything anymore, let her know what she’s been doing to you.

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