How can I stop feeling angry and sad, about what my dad did?

yeah, a two faced dad… I know.

The judges need to believe you, you need to tell al your feelings and let them know everything. I can see you are not scared of doing this and that is good… because know I know that helps, when things like that are happening you need to tell. You dad is horrable. Just be glad he dosent hit you. Right? And like the obove I agree it is not your foult, he just told you that so you can feel bad and he told you that when you where little because he tought you would not remember but when you are little you remember everything!! Believe me. I know is horrable feeling guilty about something that is really not your foult, and haing someone you love tell you that is even harder, I know manny times we all believe it, but it’s not true. You will get litsened too, just keep showing your feelings and telling everything that will keep on helping.

GOOD LUCK:)

this sounds familiar… I don’t think my dad ever hit my mum when I was younger but there were violent threats and stuff. I’ve found out recently that he had loads of affairs. When I was 7 they divorced and I started going to my dad’s every 2nd weekend with my sisters. He wanted us to live with him too but my mum wasreally against it; we were only children so we didn’t fully understand everything. last time I saw my dad was January 2007. that night he hit my sister repeatedly and I had to hit him to get him off of her, and I thought he was going to go for me next. My youngest sisted was luckily on the phone to my mum at the time, who called the police and he then spent the night in a cell. I haven’t spoken to him once since them, and he refuses to apologise or pay child support, claiming he can’t afford it, when he spends thousands on a TABLE for his wh*re of fiance, notorius for marrying guys, kicking out their kids, having one with them them divorcing them for all they’ve got. She’s done this 4 times already in exactly the same way but he still thinks she’s changed enough. He’s taking her kids on a really expensive holiday and I haven’t even SPOKEN to him.. Anyway sorry I’ve kind of rambled on a bit. I’ve decided that I am going to write him a letter. I know it’ll be too hard to talk to him without breaking down, so I’m writing him a letter. I’m going to ask him why Marina’s kids are s much more important than his own blood, why he feels it was necessary to disown me and my sisters.

I think what you should do is, unless there’s any danger, sit down and talk with him, and tell him that you want to live with your mum so there’s no need to be in court all the time and that what you want should be important to him. Tell him that you’re not a little kid anymore and it’s not fair that he’s using you to get at your mum. You’re fed up of being in the middle of it and you want out. You need closure so that you can get past the anger and sadness. If there is some danger and you’re still living with violence then you have to talk to the police. They have to listen to you. Make them listen to you.

I don’t know if any of this has helped, mostly it was just me rambling on… Sorry, and good luck.

what you can do iz juxx believe and urself and never let it happen again think bout the happy thingz and life dont let that take over your life and if he’z still sayz he didnt do tell them you have proof record it and give it 2 the police az evidence then it really wont happen again you and your mum and sister will b safe 4 life!:))

You’ve just got to realize that it truley isn’t your fault. You have no control over other people’s poor choices. Start writting some things done to get it all out? Turn it into something positive. Hate can ruin your life. Don’t let it happen.