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Should I have spoke up??

I fiound out about 3 weeks ago that I was preganant. My family is going through financial problems, plus my dads going through court and everything. [long story]

So they told me I couldnt keep it. They tolk me to the place to get it done. and there was one point when the lady pulled me away from my family and was like “Is this what YOU want?”

I wanted and always will want me baby! I still love my baby and I cant believe he is gone! But should I have spoke up told her “No, this is not what I want?”

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Answer #1

First of all let me offer sympathy for what you went through. At this point in time, you cannot change what has happened, you can only learn from it. Of course you wanted that life in you. It is one of the most basic drives there is. But another part of you knew that right now wasn’t the right time. You were in conflict then and now. The thing to take from this is to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancies. Once you find and fall in love with the one that you want to be with forever, you will have a child together and you will be a wonderful Mother, I can tell. Meanwhile you will grieve for that lost possibility, all the while realizing that if it had gone to term you would not have been able to offer all that you would want to offer. Your age, lack of resources, and family situation would have made it almost impossible. I would say that you made the right choice. And that lady at the clinic was right to pull you aside to ask you that question. It should ultimately be the choice of the woman (you). I hope that you now know about BC pills and are, or soon will be taking them.

You have had to make some tough choices at a time when ‘what shirt to wear’ should be your hardest question.

I wish you the very best, now and in the future. Good Luck!!

Answer #2

well I know your going through hard times, some times theres things in life that happen that you dont want, but some day find that everything happens for a reason. just look to the positives you can try to have another child when your older and more mature, just keep in mind that you will not be a mother of one but a mother of 2. you are not alone. im a mother of one…but in reality a mother of 5.

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