Should I adopt my friend's child?

Thank you for the comments so far.

ty: I believe she does not know who the father is…so that would mean a dna test. And, yes then asking him to sign off. That is my fear that she would want to take the child after a few years and our children have gotten attached as well as my husband and I. I know this is a lot to think about. I too have thought about the inspection of the home. Which I am not afraid of. They may say that we need one more bedroom for her..not sure.

Thank you again ty & Lyannwitt67 for your comments.

I’d say adopt the baby && do what ever you have to for this child. seems to me that the mother isnt able to love && care for the baby like you, your husbands and your children already could. What happends if you dont adopt her she may end up in a fauster care. the mother doesnt need to raise a baby around of drugs its not fair for the baby at all. she already dont have the father in her life. im sure your husband could take on that role. I say go for it sweetie. it may be the best decision in your life.

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Yes someone can sign away parental rights, and it would be binding after a couple of months, but I think you’d have to take that risk for a couple of months. Although if she’s doing drugs she’s unlikely to regain custody of the child…

After tthat (and you should get the father to give up rights too otherwise he could come claim the kid later on) Im pretty sure there’s nothing she can do, unless you abuse the kid in some way.

I would seriously think about this. What happens if she cleans up in a few years and wants contact with the kid?

You need to call a lawyer, there’s all sorts of legal documents and things you would need to do. A social worker probably needs to inspect your house…