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I was friends with this woman years ago and had chosen to "step away" from the friendship because there was a lot going on. She became addicted to drugs and had several babies by different men. She and I spoke yesterday for the first time in over a year and still considers me a friend. While talking to her she asked me if I would take her one year old little girl and adopt her. My husband and I have four children ourselves with the youngest being six. My question is "Can someone just sign off parental rights and give their child to you"? Also, how do you go about doing something like this? I know we have to get a lawyer and go through this the legal way. Part of me is scared to do something so big and get attached to this baby and have her come back and take her from her "family".
Do you think this would be right for us to consider? I know we could provide for her and be a loving family...just a little bit concerned on some issues.
Yes someone can sign away parental rights, and it would be binding after a couple of months, but I think you'd have to take that risk for a couple of months. Although if she's doing drugs she's unlikely to regain custody of the child...
After tthat (and you should get the father to give up rights too otherwise he could come claim the kid later on) Im pretty sure there's nothing she can do, unless you abuse the kid in some way.
I would seriously think about this. What happens if she cleans up in a few years and wants contact with the kid?
You need to call a lawyer, there's all sorts of legal documents and things you would need to do. A social worker probably needs to inspect your house...
I'd say adopt the baby && do what ever you have to for this child. seems to me that the mother isnt able to love && care for the baby like you, your husbands and your children already could. What happends if you dont adopt her she may end up in a fauster care. the mother doesnt need to raise a baby around of drugs its not fair for the baby at all. she already dont have the father in her life. im sure your husband could take on that role. I say go for it sweetie. it may be the best decision in your life.
hope I helped babydoll7
Thank you for the comments so far.
ty: I believe she does not know who the father is...so that would mean a dna test. And, yes then asking him to sign off. That is my fear that she would want to take the child after a few years and our children have gotten attached as well as my husband and I. I know this is a lot to think about. I too have thought about the inspection of the home. Which I am not afraid of. They may say that we need one more bedroom for her..not sure.
Thank you again ty & Lyannwitt67 for your comments.
well if tha mother is on drugs then yes I think its best for someone to adopt her so she wont have to be growing up around that she needs a loving family and home...but I dont get how people just want to give there kids up I mean I have 2 of my own and ita very had for me to let them spend a weeknd with there grandparents...u know...so its up to you...
