How to get away from an abusive Father?

gothicsblow I think your being a bit harsh like,just cause her Dad pays the bills dosunt mean he can hit her with a belt when he wants to!!!. Yes she should do some chores a round the house but she shouldunt have to fetch and carry everything for him and wipe his arse!!!Shes his child not slave!!!

your very wise, you r a survivor. keep your froends close they will help get you through it. I know what you mean about court, it becomes even more dangerous. unity and simplely knowing that you r not alone. We are people with ‘rights’ and we need to demand our rights to safety… but b careful.. I have ro stay it is safer atm.. 4 me.

I am a part of the … we are uniting. hang in there your friends will help you thru

http://www.courageouskids.net/

if you believe what is happening is unacceptable, then do what you have to do. sit down with a councilor and try to sort things out. verbal and physical ABUSE is not acceptable. however, discipline is, but not to the point of being excessive. you are the only one here who can decide if what you are experiencing is excessive or normal. from what I read- it doesn’t sound normal. do what you feel you need to do. may be up to a judge to decide.

Yeah get divorced from your parents and run away! And when youre on the streets living in a cardboard box youll really be in a good environment. Just dont come crying back to your “abusive” father when you cant stand on your own two feet. Also a reminder:houses/apartments and internet access cost money. Just thought id let you know. But im sure you young whipper snappers have the whole world all figured out.

I don’t know how old you are but I’m sure you have counsilors at your school. Go talk to them. They know what to do and they can get you away and you wont have to fight your dad in court. I promise they will help you. If you don’t have counsilors, talk to your principal. Go in at lunch or after school if you can.

I’m so sorry about your situation. God I hope this works out for you. Good luck.

thanks guys for the advice, I got help from my skool. To gothicsblow, it happen to be bad enough for the skool to get the cops to call CPS. Theres something wrong with my dad, he needs help. I love my dad and will always love him, but he has anger issues that he needs to take care of. He doesnt have any patients and it scares me. I never know when hes going to explode on me, im always scared! One day my dad asked for a towl, so I gave him a towl. He started screaming at me, calling me a stupid retard make feel so stupid, because he really wanted a napkin. I asked why he didnt just ask for that, and he said I should of know and to use my brain more. He said napkins are called paper towls and I should have known that. SO gothicsblow if you think he had the right to hit me over that, then you have issues too!!

Running away from your father is probably not the answer. It is fair enough that he expects you to respect him as a father and see that helping with things is a requirement. But as a human you certainly deserve more respect and to be encouraged as a child. If you feel you can talk to your father you should tell him about how he makes you feel; words of a child are very powerful.

You didn’t mention your mother? Or if your father is going through a rough patch? (Of course this is no excuse for Child Abuse)

If you cannot talk to your father there is LifeLine, KidsHelpLine you can call at any time. Just google their numbers for your state. They will give you someone to talk to. They may also be able to advise you of a local counselor that you can arrange to meet to talk about what is happening.

Either way you use your courage to speak out and stop child abuse.

So your fathers abusive because:

-He makes you help him and do chores around the house -He punishes you with a belt -He yells at you

Got news for you son. When I was living under my parents roof they didnt make me do things for them. I helped them without being told. If I got out of line I got the belt too. And yes I got chewed out all the time in tongues that would make a sailor blush. Nothing special here just another whiny brat wanting to lock his father up for “abuse” so he can go do as he pleases. Answer this? Who provides a roof for you to live under? Who pays for the internet that you use to whine about your problems? Yeah think about it.

my dad does the same thing im running away in 2 weeks