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Paranoid?!?

This guy…lets call him um..John. yah. ok. So john and I have known eachother since 7th grade and we’ve gone out a lot of and on. Last time we went out he liked another girl and he broke up with me but now were back 2gether because she did some stuff with other guys if you no what I mean. She still likes him and I keep on feeling like its going to happen again! I dont want to risk my relationship by not trusting him but I hate being so paranoid what should I do!?!?! <3 katie

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Answer #1

He has to earn your trust. He has already proven that you shouldn’t trust him so he has a hole to climb out of. It is easier to trust someone that hasn’t already hurt you.

Do you know his parents? Do they have a good relationship? If his parents didn’t have a good relationship, then he hasn’t had anyone to teach him how to have a good relationship.

And then, what about you? Where have you learned about having a good relationship? From you parents or grandparents, from peers that had good relationships or maybe some relatives?

Beware. Do not use what you see on TV or in movies as an wxample of good relationships. TV shows can be funny, sometimes hilarious, but the things are said to make us laugh. In real life the things said on tv can hurt. The wound doesn’t resolve itself in 30 minuteslike a sitcom or a one hour drama.

I recommend the book “10 things women do to mess up their lives” by Dr Laura and you could listen to her radio program. She is the best on relationships.

Good luck.

Answer #2

he is using you! he only got back with you because of the girl cheating on him, and he obviously didn’t want to be single and knew you liked him so got back with you. now that the other girl is wanting him back he is tempted.. he is a player, he only wants a girlfriend to look good, and for sex, he is a loser.

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