My 35 year old son won't get a job

I have to agree with Matt also on this one — there comes a time when a man has to “MAN UP”

He has a family OF HIS OWN! he needs to be taking care of. It will be hard for you to do this, and I suspect you already know what must be done —

If he has 2 kids — where’s there mother? Obviously we don’t know all the background, but regardless of that, it’s time your son started acted like the grown man that he is, and get out of bed, and get himself in gear and do what a man is supposed to instead of sulking in bed all day and letting his life and yours and his kids waste away for no reason.

In the end — it’ll be up to you to make it happen — Clearly YOU are the one taking care of his kids, and I know you feel sorry in many ways because it’s not their fault. But, you need to stand your ground for them, as well as for him… and we won’t even consider all the stress that’s on you in you having to step up in his place when you’re own son is already an adult and should be doing it…

I’m sure you love him — Prove it ! It’ll be your one last hard act that forces him into reality that he has responsibilities that are his, not yours…

If he has diagnosed mental issues, then clearly those will need to be addressed during this process — if he’s supposed to be on meds, and is not — that’s a good place to start. If he won’t help himself so he can help his own family, then the next step is that someone steps in and take them from him — no one wants that, but clearly he’s not doing any parenting now, so the kids deserve a whole lot more!

In the end — it goes back to you mom — you have to force the issue, but I think you already know this but need someone to back you up — Perhaps someone from a support group, or your church may offer something in that area to help you thru… but, it is back on you to kick him in the butt, and get him going, either under his own power, or with the help of someone/something else — perhaps potential loss of his kids is incentive…

Good luck