loving dad to Abusive dad with one sentence

OMG I’m soo srry fer you =( thats a terrible thing tew have tew live and deal with daily…whyy doesnt your mom interfere? Thats not right he shuddnt b calling you those things or hitting you or your older bro tew the point where his nose cracks!!! Thats sick!! O mii gosh! Umm have you tljed tew your mom about it? Is she gunna leave hym? Maybee if its really that bad and no ones doin anythin about it then maybee tlk tew another family member or a school counselor and if its VERY bad tew a point that your scared fer your life then go tew the police..but that shudd b the last resort soo maybee just try tlkin tew your mom tell her your sick of the crap and tell her how you fell because he shudd not b treating you like that!! Good Luck with ery thin if you need sumone tew tlk tew imma good lisner even tho imma stranger L0L :) Good Luck with erythin and I hope all goes well …

you live in an abusive home, try and get out of it as soon as you possibly can

Have you ever thought of moving with another family member. you could talk to your mum about it. cause a mother always wants there kids to be happy.

Could your Dad be a closet alcoholic? Or maybe just a control freak? Either way find a way to get out.

I Feel your pain my Fiancee is the exact same way, what I do is PRAY it helps me a lot because always after his tantrum he always apologizes. but I know it hurts vey much. maybe they do need help but my fiancee doesnt want the drugs that they will prescribe. May be there is other alternatives out there GOOD LUCK and I’ll be praying for you to get through this :) DON’T LET HIS HURTFUL WORDS GET YOU DOWN.

Maybe your dad has bipolar disorder. Sounds like some of the classic symptoms to me. Read more on bipolar disorder here please: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/bipolar-disorder/complete-publication.shtml

Maybe your mom does not even realize this, and both of you have been trying to cope without understanding what’s going on. Educate yourselves, and then try to educate your dad when he is in the down state so he can go get some help.

Its treatable, and when the person realizes what’s going on, they can probably better be able to control, or at least shorten the eposides.

try just talking to him calmly and being nice to him by helping him with things or fetching his remote or something he needs and have a word with your mum, then sit down and talk calmly and maybe suggest counciling. if counciling doesnt work the call childline because what he is doing is just plain wrong. move out maybe with anouther relitive. call the police next time he hits you and verbally abuses you because you could get him locked up for it and yeah, you may think that you want to live with him and get along but his time inside may do him good and you could always visit him so bare that in mind. I hope this was helpful.

ok. can I just clarify that your mum doesn’t really get involved? is your mum scared of your dad? or is your dad scared of your mum?

you need to speak to someone who can offer some real suuport and guidance, someone who can actually intervene. I don’t think you need telling that your dad in this instance was completely out of order, and his behaviour was hardly one of a good example…

you need to pull your mum aside and talk to her. your dad is violent, he has been violent to you and your brothers…there is a huge difference between a slap on the bum when your 5 and a cracked nose when your older…

I am very serious, if you are concerned about your safety and that ofyour brothers, you need to speak to someone official, school teacher..your doctor - someone! your dad has clearly lost control over his temper and problems with this is that they generally don’t get better, they get worse, more so if the person isn’t prepared to recognise they have a problem…

no matter what, your mum as out of order letting your dad talk to you like that. I can’t even begine to go on about the long term self-esteem problems…but you know this isn’t right..your mum must to, why won’t she say anything to him? there’s no point in just havign a mood with him, some serious action needs to be taken…

you dad is behaving very cruelly, both physically and mentally towards you…you should not have to put up with it. I know you could find somewhere else to go, but that’s not going to help your bro is it? and he shouldn’t be your responsibility, but he is, because you care… if I were you I’d talk to child line (I am sure if your not UK you must have an equivalant) child line is a free service and they will give you all the support you need, moreover they will be able to action something for you and your brother…

but please, talk to your mum first, don’t mention seeking 3rd party help, that will only make your parents defensive…and they may not let you go out on your own if they think you will ring other people…but you need to speak to her and find out what’s going on in her head when your dad’s like this…

and someone who can be abusive is often like jekyll and hyde…it works on the theory that you put up with all the bad, for that wonderful little bit of good. but your getting older, andyour not being fooled by the ‘good’ anymore…x x

Sounds like my parents. I just turned my back on them. And have made their life HELL

I know exactly what your going through… except my mum hit me I dont know my dada and my sister stands there and watches it happen. I found myself dodging my mum playing a lot of sport and stuff to get my mind off things. your dad dones not sound very nice to me. you could try sticking up for yourself but as you said he is a lot bigger and stronger than you are think about your options. try and talk to another adult like a friends mum or dad… a teacher at school… a family member that way… they can do the best for you… seeking help is one of the best ways t cope with this. dont stick it out alone ok.

from naomi.

call dyfs or other child protection agency at the least your father has serious anger control issues and may be mentally ill, at worst he may be slipping into true insanity and the sexual connotation of what he’s calling you indicate he may even be sexually fixated on you (which if he is unstabe could lead to sexual abuse instead of just verbal abuse and physical abuse) without knowing your situation I can’t be sure but your mother sounds as though she’s been abused by him as she didn’t even respond when he began these activities, but even if I’m overreacting and he was just having a really bad day, your dad needs counciling at a bare minimum