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my abusive dad in jail

ok so long story short.. my dad abused my sister when she was little and he is in jail for like 12 years now. he of course still talks to my grandma and he says that he loves me and I don’t know whether to believe it or not. I mean we need to forgive everyone no matter what they did… so I am gonna have to forgive him eventually. and my grandma also said that he has changed a lot since he was put in prison and I don’t know whether to believe that too. my mom says that once he gets out he is just gonna do something bad and then get himself back in prison again… to be honest I DO want to see him, need to actually. but I do not want to hurt my mom and sister.. they don’t want me to but I NEED to

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Answer #1

You can forgive your father…but you have to draw a line between you two.And if you see signs of abuse get away from him asap..

Answer #2

I’m sorry to hear that. Its a touchy situation & I’m not gonna go to deep with this as I don’t have a real answer TBH. If I was in your position I would definitely agree with forgiveness but at the same time tread lightly.. Your father has a mental Illness that I my opinion no amount of jail can fix. But that does not mean you can’t begin a relationship with your dad supervised of course even still its something. I would be honest with your mom & sister on your visits as they need to be aware of any possible danger & it will be much harder for the victim to forgive than you take your sisters feelings into consideration .

Hope this helps

Answer #3

thanks for the advice

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