issues with a friend .. need some advice from you people

Ohh now read this and tell me if this can be a friend, best friend.

Today cause of the snow a mate lets call him L(14) and with a another guy P (14)came around my house to go out and play with snow ..like snow ball fight.

So we went out on my road and it was all cool .. having fun until some cars started to come.. these 2 L& P threw snow balls at the cars and they kept doin it to this guy.. he got annoyed stept out of the car and shoutin at them 2.. I was standing like few meters away from him steel and he started 2 blame me cause of the snow that went in his car.. I said I didn’t threw it and he knew it was them 2 … oh well embarrassed however.. I went up to them L&P and asked ‘em wtf .. why do you have to do this … they say its fun .. im stupid ye I don’t know what fun is .. anyway they started to throw again at this guy and swear at him for no reason ( and these L&P are no bad guys .. you know they just act fools )

As we walked down the road… they kept throwing snow balls at the cars , people etc .. (cause they find it fun ) and they ‘ve told me that last night they went to a chicken shop where they threw snow to the person workin there… and so they did 2day ,… helplessly I had to follow them until I got there .. they opend the door splash in his face after the guy starts chasin the… and so ashamed I walked different way from where they were running .. I ve called them 2 know where they are and on my way back from the other side some man keep pointing at me that I was involved … I got mad .. im like didn’t do a thing and you telling me that im involved as well.. had an argument with the guy they threw the snow ball at and than walked 2 meet them of where they were hiding…

All the way ME criticised that I m doin nuthin that im scared of doin bad.. and I don’t know to have fun … if they call this fun … im stupid tw4at what ever… how can you freckin get chased by some chicken shop man in east London ..

Well in the end I got them to calm down a bit and simply walk …

Again .. we meet some kids like around 8to12 .. im 16 P& L are 14 .. We spoke 2 them and threw some snow balls at them and so they did .. ye it was fun and every1 was enjoyin it until the 2 jealous tw4ats P&L had to go up to them and threw it right in their face ! OH WELL had 2 run away from their parent anyway… when we got to L’s house in 5 mins one of the guy with his dad .. they get out of the car and the kid points at me as I was the one who threw in his face… had to run .. till I got home and my neighbour arguing me that P&L destroyed there snow man .. arh fck it ..

Anyway in like 5 mins they came my house (p&L) and we played some pro evo9 ..

The matter with this guy L , which is my best friend is that when he is just with me .. he acts just like me… normal calm and not thinking of doin stupid things… whenever someone else is with us than he acts sooo foolish and trying to look the bets .. ( he even half destroyed my b day party .. argh anyway forgive him ..

He s got jealous cause he lost the ps3 game and had 2 make stupid comments from no where without makin a sense. like oh you should get that … ah look at that . its crap .. im like wtf .. wats the point in that .. if I get something HE WOULDN’T PAY 1 POUND FOR IT .. IST just 2 CRAP !! god damn !! I get enough.. And at times he was saying things in polish so I couldn’t understand… telling things 2 P defiantly about me or something 2 entertain or make luf of his BEST mate !

Always im the one that he turn 2 when needs help..homework..”arh pls can you help me … “

Now If its stupid than don’t comment but if you have something worth 2 say than let me know..

Should I talk 2 this guy , consider him my best friend… we are really good friends for 2 years..

Answer #1

This is a tough one mostly because you’ve been mates for two years already which means you’ve got your share of good and bad times together. Normally if someone was trashing your parties, dissin you in front of other people and getting you in trouble with half the neighborhood I’d have to say ditch the friendship! But what I feel in your post is that you truly like your friend (when he isn’t a idiot) and that is pains you to end your friendship so I guess my question to you is how much are you really getting out of this friendship? Is he there for you when you need help? Does he ever listen and respect what you say? Friendship is a two lane street. It wouldn’t be fair that you’re a great friend and he isn’t back (in his own way mind you!). Also, I think you have to learn to limit your friendship to activities that are fun to both of you. Like the whole snowball thing was just embarrassing and not fun. You should have said “Ok guys, see you later, give me a call when you get home”. I mean what was the point of hanging out with them when they are being idiots and making you feel like one too. So to make a long answer short, I think you guys can still be mates but you’ve got to put your foot down and not just tag along when he’s acting up.

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