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What should I do? I need friend advice/break up advice. PLEASE?

I broke up with a boyfriend a while ago and I’m still in love with him. I try to talk to my friends about it because talking always makes me feel better, but they always get upset when I bring him up. My friends don’t understand how hurt I am by all of this. They think I should just “get over it”. And it makes me so mad because I’m still in love with this guy even though he cheated on me multiple times. I even have to see him on the bus at school and see him in his other relationships. Which is really hard for me. I don’t know what to do anymore since I’m a former cutter and I feel like going down that road again even though I don’t want to. And I feel so lost about everything that’s been happening. And I need some help. Please any advice?

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Answer #1

It can be difficult to get over someone. Regardless of how they treated you or what they did to you.

I suggest giving yourself some more time to grieve (so too speak). It took me about a year before I felt ready for dating again after breaking up with my previous boyfriend. By just giving myself some time to come to terms with what happened I now have a good (going 3.5 years) relationship with my current boyfriend.

I also suggest, given your history of taking out your problems on yourself, to speak to a counselor or to find one friend that you KNOW will not judge and will listen to you and confide in them. I would also recommend that you write a journal of what happened and how you felt so that you can start to understand your feelings and deal with them.

It’s not easy, but if you can get over cutting, you can get over a bad relationship. It’s just going to take some time and patience.

Good luck :)

Answer #2

Girl I know how you feel down to a letter. My ex who I love cheated multiple times an my friends do the same thing an I used to cut. It’s hard but if you want to talk more you can txt me kk 6 0 2. 6. 8. 7. 2 fve 1 six

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