What if I can't stop thinking about my cousin?

cousins are not incest every one her I know it isnt!!! also first cousins have a less chance of birth defects then some one who smokes or is a coke user! in fact a woman over 35 has more chance of a some kinda deformed kid (liek it has down sydrome) also in some states of the US its legal and evne more its legal but with restrictions. also the US isnt the only county in the world theres a lot of other countries with laws thta dont share the same idea and also in some mid eastern coumtries its considered normal. so shut up and do your research guys!

k.k. i did the same thing last summer with my cousin Drew. Until i found out that my soon to be “aunt’ was getting married with my uncle… but, i did get jealous whenever Drew would talk about girls… anyways… why don’t u just move on— find another total hottie. ask him out— whatever. There are so many other fish in the sea. G2Go, Kiikiyo

Somebody else gave some really good advice here: http://www.funadvice.com/q/me_and_my_cousin

When you consider the countless generations of marrying among cousins in European royalty…well, perhaps it’s a cultural thing, and not a biological one.

I love most of my cousin’s deeply. And I have a lot, some of the hottest girls I knew growing up were related to me. . . But I understood that incest is not best. You should use the feeling for him to base a standard for yourself and only date ( when you start dating) guys that meet the standard. to pursue a relationship with him will only cause problems in the family. . . .

Attempt to re-train your brain. When you hear the word “cousin” or anyone who would be considered off limits to you, you need to change your thinking. When you look at this person you need to associate them as a family member. You don’t need to see them as “hot” or “sexy”. My brothers are very handsome but I do not see them in the same light as young ladies who find them attractive. If you learn to immediately associate a certain person with a certain reaction, it will be soon be automatic and you won’t give it a second thought. Don’ t think you can’t do this. You were able to develop feelings in the first place. Now redirect them. The love you have for family members is very different from everyone else. Maybe you are confusing missing your cousin, who you enjoy hanging out with, for something else. You don’t have to forget him. He is your cousin, after all. Looking in someone’s eyes is a respectful way to show them they have your full attention. It does not always signal a “connection”. It is nice that your cousin is very helpful. Associate family members with a kind of love that is loyal and deep, not sexual. You are sad because you miss someone you care about. Time will heal you and you will realize you are not really in love with your cousin.