I want an affair--I think...

YOu need to seperate from your husband, to see if thats what you really want, but minus an affair or any other relationship. And see how you feel without your husband and if thats relaly what you want. And after a while, go back and ask your husband to attend consuling, if he declines. Then you know thats not what you want.

Humm this is tough I think you are doing this oiut of loyalty cause you feel guitly if you leave him he will be sad and depressed by this. Explore new ways of sex is he into diffrent ways ..Oral and other wise. Sorry if you are not into that no (Sorry didn’t know if you were into that sort of thing) but that usally satsfies me also playing around . Have you tried something new . If it still dosen’t work then it is time to give up. No need to feel bad about it it is just some are just not meant to be but if you want to stay with him then you will know because you will miss him lots and lots Good luck , sorry I couldn’t give you any better adive Dont have the affair because that will hurt him worse. Just leave him . That will hurt him less then haveing a affair.

Wow, well I am 47 and have been having an affair with this gal, she is 19..I was not unhappy but she really turned my head. It was incredible, she thought I was the hottest thing since sliced bread. Of course she eventually found a full time boyfriend and moved on so its over now. She doesn’t want to cheat on him and I can understand that. It was one of the most amazing things ever, she was very adventurous and of course I was totally flattered. No one found out and I’d have to say it was a success. I miss her terribly of course..we are trying to be friends but its very hard for me as selfish as that sounds. I really was not looking for such a thing to happen. But she wanted me and it happened so fast..I can’t say I feel guilty as bad as that sounds and I honestly do love my Wife.

honestly the first thing you need to do is not feel guilty about your feelings. Being with one person for a long time is difficult but you know that you still love him. You made a vow a long time ago to your husband not to commit adultery, and the same thing goes for him. When you first made the vow im sure that u did not think that you would be having these feelings now but you really have to hold back your urge to cheat. im sure you would be devastated if you found out that he did it to you. im sure that you realize that there is more that makes a relationship than the sex and i think you need to work on having a postive attitude and making changes between between eachother rather than trying to satisfy yourself behind his back. Think about what you can do to rekindle the flame such as going on a weekend trip. Who knows, maybe the change of atmosphere will create unexpected chemistry elsewhere. Be postitive. You know you love this man, you need to stick to eachother's vows you have made to eachother, reassure eachother. I mean ive never came from just dick anyway so make him pleasure you in other ways. get crazy get fun dont be ashamed. i mean u know eachother better than anyone else i bet. youll be happier accomplishing something together in your marriage rather than trying to find an easy hookup that wont make you happier in the long run. if the sex part ends up being difficult, just be satisfied enough to be in a stable relationship with a great companion. As long as you respect eachother, then enjoy relationship together. and who says sex toys dont solve the problem. sometimes they work better than the real thing! good luck sweetie. Make the best and br grateful for your relationship and you life!