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Do you think I can pull back the love from my affair?

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I fully expect this to be attacked harshly by the majority, because of the obvious immorality, but I still want to hear all of your comments anyway. For some of you, you'll simply NEVER understand or experience this situation, and that's good for you. But I'm in it, and I need help.

I've been married for over 10 years, and the marriage is more than stale. She knows I'm still attracted to her, yet she won't lift a finger to initiate anything sexually. I consider this just as much of a "breech" of committment as anything, but I know that's because my morals have withered.

For the past 6 months, I've been seeing a co-worker on the side. Her marriage was also fading, and her husband got into drugs, so she left him. She is resolute that this was all brewing prior to our relationship, but I do know that my advice when we were simply "friends" is partly a factor. She is a dozen years younger than me, but has been through enough in her life to be as mature as anyone my age. Our attraction was awkward at first, but as we grew more familiar with each other, we had the most incredible passion together that either of us have ever had in our lives. We settled into a comfortable two-person team that covered every single one of our tracks. Nobody at work, nor spouses have any idea or suspicions that we've been together. We trusted each other more than we've ever trusted our spouses, and she expressed her desire to eventually be with me without the cloak and dagger. We've discussed our hesitancy in changing our families forever, and lately have had our doubts about where this would all eventually go. I believe her youth and morals have kicked in, while at the same time, I'm finding myself greedy and not wanting to let go of this incredible relationship. We talked last night, and she expressed her desire to "take it a step back". We argued for perhaps the first time, and at one point agreed to end the relationship entirely. After another few hours, we felt so upset that we talked again, and "revised" that back to "taking a step back". We both realize the sex is far too incredible to give up, and it seems we'll now attempt to remove the "love" from the relationship. We've agreed that we're far too close to end a friendship we also consider to be the best we have with anyone.

My question to anyone, regardless of how much you dislike my morals, and with all of your honesty...will this actually work for both of us, or will we end up even more hurt than we ever intended for the other? Can we remain friends, and casual sexual partners without the love now?

Thanks for your responses, no matter how horrible you think we are.