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My husband and I have been married for 3 months and we have been fighting for two of the three. I want sex and he has issues because he was malested when he was younger. I try to take this into consideration but I also need his touch. what do I need to or can I do??

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If you want this marriage to last, the TWO of you are going to need counselling. He is going to have the harder job by far, and it will probably take years with a therapist (after all he has been suffering, and hiding, and trying to ignore it for most of his life). You will have to get help from a professional to be able to deal with what you are also going through. You expected to have a close physical relationship on a deep emotional level and, right now, he CANNOT give you that, even though he wants to. That part of his personality is walled off. He had to do it as a coping mechanism when he was young. I wish you both the best. Good Luck!!!

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