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How do I get my dad to understand that I've been through enough?

this summer: lost virginity to my boyfriend of 10 mo. and was sexually molested by my close uncle this school semester: was my class slut, moved in with my abusive/neglective mother, continued to raise my 2 sisters (ages 2 & 7) while my mom went and partied, my mom used up my money to go spend on alchohol and drugs (she owes me over $600, owes my 18 yr old sister ovr a thousand and used my sister’s checkbook for other crap, and owes my 7 yr old sister I dont even know how much money), got attacked by my mom on school grounds, and is now working on a case against her, moved back in with my dad seeing as my mom had sprained my wrist and I’m getting really bad headaches due to her beating one side of my head by hand, belt, pants(that was one was weird…), and other various objects. my dad still thinks its inexcusable to have the grades I do raising 2 girls and living down the street from my molester/uncle. and he won’t let me see my boyfriend (the only person keeping me from killing myself) because of ONE night.

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Answer #1

This is a big one. I would completely hate to b in your shoes rite now. One can only imagine what kind of life you are living rite now. So I am gonna try my damndest to give you some useful advice.

I first off don’t no your dad, so if I were you I would make it clear to him that the only thing that you want /need is your boyfriend. Life is a test in itself, to complete this test you must live your life to the fullest. Unfortunatly in life things can go bad for a very long time, you are one of those people I am guessing that has had a lot put on there plate from the beginning. Stick with it. Don’t let The pressures of life put you down. So Make Damn clear to your dad ( the only person that I see in your life you can trust and appreciate, besides you boyfriend) That in-order to keep going you need a helping hand and this might just be your boyfriend.
Remember that you are the only one at the moment fighting this fight. If not you, who? I have faith in you :) I might not know you but it sounds like you have done a great job so far. Keep it together and get through this thing. iwould suggest not talking or seeing you mom for a long time, she needs to understand that if she doesnt start acting like a mom , she wont b one for long.

Good Luck !!! I no you can get through this !!!

HAVE HOPE!! :)

Answer #2

Then your dad is being just plain unreasonable and not being a very good dad. The next time you go to a counselor, tell the couselor about all of that and about your dad and what he says..stuff like that and ask your counselor if he/she could stage a intervention.

Answer #3

Explain to your dad how you feel about it and let him know that you are trying to bring up your grades. Tell him about your boyfriend. I hope I helped.Funmail me if you’d like.

Answer #4

Trust me, I’ve tried. But he doesnt want to listen or hear about that stuff. I wrote him letters, tried talking to him. He just dumps me with counselors and he doesn’t think I’ve even been through that much. He said I could have done my how when the baby was napping and could have told my other sister to watch TV, which I did try before but didnt work out so great. and about my boyfriend, hes just being unreasonable. He made me and him write ESSAYS about what we where we are in 3 and 5 years so we can TALK ON THE PHONE.

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